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ManlyUndies wrote: Mon Nov 22, 2021 2:37 amLook her dead square in the eye; I mean look through her eyes, right into her soul. Then, when you have her eye, put a nice big smile on your face and just say "Hi." You don't have to be goofy about it, you don't have to be overbearing, you don't have to overdo it at all. Just give her a genuine, nice "Hi." Doing this really disarms the situation as most people don't expect that kind of thing, but it is exactly the sort of thing normal people do. Ergo, it normalizes the situation, and with her looking at your face, she is not looking at your suit.

Thank you!! This is really good advice. My instinct is unfortunately the opposite. I look away. I even did that with the women who were trying to give me positive attention... I will work on it

ian262 wrote: Mon Nov 22, 2021 12:11 pm

ManlyUndies wrote: Mon Nov 22, 2021 2:37 amLook her dead square in the eye; I mean look through her eyes, right into her soul. Then, when you have her eye, put a nice big smile on your face and just say "Hi." You don't have to be goofy about it, you don't have to be overbearing, you don't have to overdo it at all. Just give her a genuine, nice "Hi." Doing this really disarms the situation as most people don't expect that kind of thing, but it is exactly the sort of thing normal people do. Ergo, it normalizes the situation, and with her looking at your face, she is not looking at your suit.

Thank you!! This is really good advice. My instinct is unfortunately the opposite. I look away. I even did that with the women who were trying to give me positive attention... I will work on it

I definitely understand. It took me a long time to figure this out, as my natural reaction was the same as yours. I wanted crawl into the woodwork and hide. However, I learned to just own it and overcome it. After all, it is their insecurity, why make it your problem.

Just be normal with people, act like what you are doing is normal... because it actually is completely normal. Other people's hang-ups with their own bodies or even considering that a male has a penis is their problem.

You do you. Let them deal with their issues.

Fun follow up to this at Christmas dinner.

The college roommate was there and she was talking about the trip with my aunt and me. (This wasn't my aunt who went on the trip--though she is my mom's sister.) Then she said just about out of nowhere, "Ian wore a speedo." Like, it wasn't related to anything we were talking about.

My aunt raised her eyebrows and wolf whistled. lol. Which is kinda weird when it's your aunt but still a nice compliment!

ian262 wrote: Mon Dec 27, 2021 4:52 pm Fun follow up to this at Christmas dinner.

The college roommate was there and she was talking about the trip with my aunt and me. (This wasn't my aunt who went on the trip--though she is my mom's sister.) Then she said just about out of nowhere, "Ian wore a speedo." Like, it wasn't related to anything we were talking about.

My aunt raised her eyebrows and wolf whistled. lol. Which is kinda weird when it's your aunt but still a nice compliment!

The cat is getting out of the bag. Sounds like you made an impression on the roommate. Nice to have some positivity to help with the confidence.

Ian, I've been following your story with great interest. The Forum members' suggestions are both sound and empowering! I've enjoyed plenty of "Check-It-Out!" time in front of my full-length mirror at home for years, steadily increasing my confidence AND decreasing the size of my bikinis! After the drapes are drawn at night, I'll stroll around some from room to room in my microbikini, just groovin' on looking sensuous! Try this to get more and more used to the liberating feeling of enjoying your body in a comfortable way that is QUITE normal and natural. And I think that other Forum members will definitely agree that enjoyment of your microwear will definitely increase your enjoyment of sensuality and sexuality. (They all work together holistically!) Good luck, and continue to keep us posted!