David_NC wrote: Tue Mar 03, 2026 10:46 pm
My wife’s first comment was, are you telling me you are gay. We then had a nice long conversation, great sex and now I’m in my 6th year wearing them about 99% of the time. My wife says I have too many but has never said a negative comment to me. To her they are just another pair of underwear.
I keep asking people what, if anything, does underwear have to do with being gay?! I've yet to receive an answer from anyo!
And you WON'T, because it DON'T! (I'm a poet and don't know it! ) Human nature being what it is, snap judgements and knee-jerk reactions will show up early and often. Ignoring them and doing and wearing what YOU like (within reason) drives 'em up the wall!
It’s a frustrating double standard. A woman wearing thongs is sexy, desirable and comfortable in her own skin. With no reference to orientation. A guy is gay and weird. I battled the negative perception in my own journey of seeking my wife’s acceptance. Made a lot of progress but it should not have been so challenging.
David_NC wrote: Tue Mar 03, 2026 10:46 pm
My wife’s first comment was, are you telling me you are gay. We then had a nice long conversation, great sex and now I’m in my 6th year wearing them about 99% of the time. My wife says I have too many but has never said a negative comment to me. To her they are just another pair of underwear.
I keep asking people what, if anything, does underwear have to do with being gay?! I've yet to receive an answer from anyo!
There is no connection to comfortable underwear and sexual orientation. A woman isn’t a lesbian if she wears a thong, she simply enjoys wearing minimal clothing and is comfortable with her body. If a man does it, he is weird or something. We must love societies double standards
I wish people would stop making a connection between thongs and sexual orientation. I was at the beach yesterday and met up with friends. One of my friends brought her cousin with her. I’ve met this cousin a couple times so no big deal. I’m wearing a thong with a colorful butterfly print. At some point the “cousin” asks if I have a partner. As I was just taking about cycling I thought she was asking about riding with someone. Nope! She clarified. “Do you have a boyfriend?” I politely said I prefer a girlfriend. I was trying to not make a big deal out of her question. It is a question I get asked every so often at the beach or a pool wearing a thong.
There have been many double standards throughout history. They are done away with by persistence and determination. The common point for their demise is the plain refusal to tolerate them. They are the handiwork of narrow minds and asinine agendas. For someone of my "yoof(!)" I remember when the Berlin Wall went up, and rejoiced in seeing it come down 28 years later. And, yes, our mothers, grandmothers and other women we hold dear were treated as "less than" for many years, but no more!
As a society, we make too many assumptions about people. We need to be wiling to be curious if there's something we do not understand.
I probably wear the sexiest underwear out of all my hetero, gay, and lesbian friends (well - that I know about)--aside from my wife! Though my wife would probably have been a conservative church marm had she not married me.
My wife loves the fact that I wear thongs for both her and myself - and that I wear thongs for my own personal self sensuality. She loves it! I used to be so anxious about it (I still am - sometimes), and after so many years, I(we) are totally free.
I am also fortunate my wife doesn't mind or really care much about what I wear for underwear. When we first started to date she seen me in bikinis, strings, briefs, trunks, and even thongs , never batted an eye. Now I wear everything (including women's panties) and I very rarely get anything but a positive comment.
I was already wearing thong underwear for special occasions when we began dating. So, she saw me wearing thongs from the very beginning. As time went on, I wore thongs more and more. Now they are my normal, everyday underwear for 25+ years. Since I've been wearing them so long, she really does not comment on them other than I have too many of them.
) Human nature being what it is, snap judgements and knee-jerk reactions will show up early and often. Ignoring them and doing and wearing what YOU like (within reason) drives 'em up the wall! 