Hey. need advice…

[tomhuge66]

Hello,

I’ve been looking on this blog for a while and just now have gotten up the nerve to make an account. This is the first forum of this type I’ve been on. And I need advice. More context below:

I’ve been into underwear (jockstraps, thongs, tight briefs, and other skimpy undies) since I was 12. There’s more to the story but I’ll keep it short.

I’m 23 and straight but I had an embarrassing experience recently. My girlfriend of a few months walked in on me changing — while I was wearing a very tight mesh g-string. Totally embarrassed. She was so pissed and I have no clue what to do now.

What makes it worse is that I have little control over my “wetness” down there. it’s an issue I’ve had for a long time.

I’m joining this forum to hopefully gain some community and recover from my experience.

[tbdrawer]

Did she say why she is mad? If it is over the g-string then what you are going to hear is a consensus of maybe she isn't the one. Especially with it only being a few months relationship. Underwear is a pretty petty thing to get angry over. If you want to try and keep the relationship then you need to discuss it with her. Figure out what the problem is and explain why you enjoy wearing the styles you like to wear. If she can't be accepting of it then maybe you need to move on and find someone who is. Don't change your underwear choice to please someone. Good luck and others I'm sure will give you some ideas.

[Guitar T]

First welcome to the forum.
If your girlfriend is mad about your underwear choices, you need to have a discussion with her to find out what is bothering her. Did she buy into the stereotypes about men that wear thongs? Does she suspect you are hiding a part of your life from her? Does she come from a more conservative or religious background that may have instilled rules of right and wrong or promoted rigid gender roles? Or is it something else? I suggest you be honest about your choice with clear explanation about why you wear a thong/G-string/skimpy underwear. If this is a breaking lint with her and her to be clear about it. Most of all be true to yourself.

[Italian]

Good that partners know each other more personal preferences. Just some thoughts about underwear:
If man asks woman to wear a thong or not to wear it, she can accept and feel sexy and desired, or maybe feel uncomfortable for string between there or other reasons. Partner may like a sexy outfit or underwear or prefer a more conservative one but all agree that she has final decision. As all world agrees on this, why not same in other sense?
Sometimes in couples there are discussions and for important things there can be some argument that ends in "decide between me and ..." (Having some friends always at home, smoking cigarettes, spending much time for a sport or other...) These are serious issues that may make difficulties in a couple relationship. Underwear style for me isn't a serious issue, who sees? May understand thong beachwear but not underwear.
I think no woman requires man wearing thong but those who sees me in underwear or tanline appreciate. But just opinions.

In conclusion, I hope this isn't a crucial point for your relationship, and if it is ... Well, talk deeply about what reasons for staying together. Especially if she gets not surprised or puzzled buy angry!

[tomhuge66]

Thanks for all the good advise and support. it really means a lot. I’m not sure why she’s so upset.

But I’m feeling more confident about my underwear choices and I’m looking to make some new friends, hopefully, on this forum. Feel free to message me!

[OR-Tacoma]

Hi!

Late to the conversation. How did things go? If you are open, please give us an update when you can. I hope the conversation went well.

[bikiniguy1971]

Hello,

I’ve been looking on this blog for a while and just now have gotten up the nerve to make an account. This is the first forum of this type I’ve been on. And I need advice. More context below:

I’ve been into underwear (jockstraps, thongs, tight briefs, and other skimpy undies) since I was 12. There’s more to the story but I’ll keep it short.

I’m 23 and straight but I had an embarrassing experience recently. My girlfriend of a few months walked in on me changing — while I was wearing a very tight mesh g-string. Totally embarrassed. She was so pissed and I have no clue what to do now.

What makes it worse is that I have little control over my “wetness” down there. it’s an issue I’ve had for a long time.

I’m joining this forum to hopefully gain some community and recover from my experience.

Welcome — and I’m really glad you decided to post. It takes courage to put yourself out there after a moment like that. I’m a little late to this thread, but I’d honestly be interested to hear how things are going now that this part of you is out in the open.

I can relate. When my now-wife and I started dating 25+ years ago, I hid my preferred bikinis and a couple of thongs in a bag and wore what I thought she expected to see instead. Not long in, she found my stash. I was embarrassed and braced for the worst. Her reaction was far more understanding than I had built up in my head.

That experience taught me something important: hiding harmless quirks or preferences creates more stress than the quirks themselves. From then on, I stopped concealing what I like. Same with being a lifelong Speedo guy — I decided I wasn’t going to pretend otherwise. It’s simply part of who I am. I’m not sure she knew she was getting a lifelong “Speedo guy” with me…but here I am.

Your underwear preferences don’t define your orientation or your character. They’re just preferences. The real question is whether you can be fully yourself in the relationship. If something this small becomes a major issue, it’s worth thinking carefully about long-term compatibility.

You deserve to feel comfortable being yourself — not managing or shrinking parts of who you are.

[CrossfiThong]

Hey there, welcome to the forum.
Well, you’re 23, you’re q young guy and if you’re girlfriend is not agreed with your underwear choice, well it’s time to move on. But I encourage you to ask her why she is so upset.
Over time, you will have this kind of reaction from other about your underwear, but I warranty you that you will build confunden and proudness about your underwear.
In the mean time, I suggest you, if someone give you a hard time about it, keep calm and just say: I just like something different. And move on, if people still bothering you about that, don’t encourage a discutir until you’re ready.
Good luck and you just found your community

[NoOnesOnion87]

I'll never understand why some women have such mental hangups over a man's personal choice in undergarments. I have never broken up with a woman because she wore panty styles that I didn't like, and I have never met any other man who did either! If she broke up with you solely because of your underwear, I would say that she has emotional issues that goes deeper than men's underwear, and that you dodged a bullet!

[bikiniguy1971]

I'll never understand why some women have such mental hangups over a man's personal choice in undergarments. I have never broken up with a woman because she wore panty styles that I didn't like, and I have never met any other man who did either! If she broke up with you solely because of your underwear, I would say that you dodged a bullet.

Agreed!