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You should definitely go forward with wearing the thong if that is what you want to wear. Basically, you just have to keep wearing them and you'll start feeling comfortable in them as you go through the different scenarios that cause your anxiety. Most of us when we started had anxiety about someone finding out we're not wearing the norm in men's underwear. The more you wear them and see yourself in them the more it will start feeling like a norm to you. Once it feels more a norm to you that should also help reduce the anxiety some.

You already hit two important things about thongs. They boost your confidence and they are comfortable. The sex appeal is just the bonus and it isn't inappropriate for a guy to feel sexy. I've written about the thong topic quite a bit on my blog and many others have contributed in the comments. Keep reading through the forums too there is lots of information that will help. I'm sure many will chime in with their support. Just keep wearing them that is key and welcome to the forums.

If you think things are comfortable and like wearing them I would definitely stick with them. It just takes some time and the anxiety will go away. I remember having some nervousness when first wearing thongs as my everyday underwear . I started wearing them a couple times a week , maybe to run errands or hang out with friends. That anxiety has gone away from me and I am so glad that I have made the switch. Stick with it and it will feel normal as wearing boxers.

Hi John and a warm welcome to the forum and community! Congratulations on making the step over to thong underwear. It's a big transition from conventional men's underwear. Your anxiety about wearing them in public, even under your clothes, is normal and valid. You feel this anxiety in your nervous system because you're going against a lot of cultural conditioning that's told you men aren't allowed to wear thongs and enjoy feeling sexy or erotic in their bodies this way. As tbdrawer said it's not inappropriate for a guy to feel sexy or sensual. He's also right that as you continue to wear thongs that anxiety will diminish and you'll feel at home in them. You will go through a lot of emotions and sometimes confusion on this underwear journey. You'll feel like people in public can see what your wearing underneath. This is all in your mind.

Think " calm, it's only underwear"
Consider that normally noone knows what you are wearing under
If something flashes... Oh well people usually don't care and we aren't in stranger's thoughts.
At beginning you'll think of the string between cheeks... Look where you are walking!

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Here are my recommendations:

Try wearing a thong while running short errands, like grocery shopping, going to the gym, or getting coffee—activities that don’t take more than two hours.

If you wear a thong to work, you can wear boxers over it. That way, you may feel more “secure,” knowing you’re wearing both boxers and a thong at the same time.

Overall, you can wear whatever you want. Some people may make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, but at the end of the day, only you know what works best for you.

Good luck on your journey, and if you ever need encouragement, come back to the forum and ask any of us directly. We understand your struggle.

been wearing them for many many years and only two people have seen it. One because I showed someone when I was drunk, and the 2nd person was a coworker who saw them while I was helping her grab something from a top shelf. Both times they smiles and complimented me.

I think over the years you pick up habits of how to mitigate the chance of showing. For example, wearing a belt, make sure I lift my pants before bending over. Most of the time I am more concerned about a VPL (or the lack of), but I think it is so uncommon for a guy to wear a thong that people wouldn't really think anything if they saw it unless you were wearing something see-thru.

Hi!

Welcome to the club!

Sometimes with anxiety, it can be helpful to lean into what makes you anxious--gradually--and more and more over time. With time and exposure, that anxiety diminishes or goes away. What CrossfiThong recommends is excellent advice.

In certain cultural and religious circles, there can be a diminishing of beauty and sexuality (both hetero and homosexuality). We are sexual creatures as humans, and sexuality, masculinity, and femininity are important parts of our experience--and expression. It can be ordered (of course); though, it's harmful to just stuff it in a closet. Certainly. I have seen in religious circles sexual expression taught to be stuffed into a closet so to speak. And even among some more progressive folks, male masculinity was taught to be covered up (figuratively and literally).

It's definitely not wrong to have a sexual appeal to wearing thongs. That's just a natural part of your sexuality that is coming out. Healthy masculinity can include wearing g-strings, thongs, bikini's whatever in appropriate contexts. Some cultural frameworks can teach us that we should hide that part of ourselves; however, we are human, and this expression is crucial to us being who we are.

This part of you can also be a litmus test for relationships going forward. Now, pretty much my wife, some health professionals (and probably an extremely small circle of friends) know I wear thongs (and the small group of people that may happen to see us outside). If an intimate partner has strong objections to what you wear in appropriate contexts, their reaction can be thought of as information to you about how close you want this person to be. Instead of judgement, their reaction can be thought of as information for you to make an informed decision about that relationship. (The only people that would have had or had a negative opinion of my thong choices are no longer in my life--and for multiple bigger reasons--not just thongs, which is the very least of them).

Anyway, try to find ways of leaning into your anxieties about thongs. Eventually, you will be comfortable enough to wear them every day, then comfortable enough to wear them to the gym, to the dr, and maybe even the beach!

I don't wear thongs all the time, but I do wear them regularly and I have been for 25+ years. Everyone's approach is a little different, but as I just posted in another thread, I bought them by accident! But I plunged right in and started wearing them regularly. Back beginning 9th grade, an even longer time ago, I just wholesale-replaced all of my tighty-whities with bikinis and string bikinis, over the strenuous objection of my dad, and the mild disapproval of my mom. So my approach was just to jump in and not look back. I haven't worn anything but bikinis, string bikinis, and thongs ever since.

You gotta wear what you wanna wear. When I started thonging, I worried about VTL. I wanted to wear 'em cause I like the look and feel, but what if someome looks and says "is he wearing a thong....?" " what's wrong with him...?". Then I thought.....if they're looking that hard, well..... . Now, I wear gtrsings a lot of the time....

Why is it OK for women to wear thongs, feel sexy (and have VTL), but not for us guys?

Hi, John! I've wandered over from the Bar-None Bikini Ranch to offer you a warm welcome! I'm into men's rio-style microbikinis for the beach, complete bodyshaving, tanning with teeny tanlines, hard ab work as part of bodybuilding, and have worn string-bikini underwear for many years. I'm also 74 and gay, and NO my love of men's microwear did not "cause" my sexuality! I am as I was born, just as you are straight. You will find us a very welcoming and diverse bunch of guys (straight, gay and bi), and I'm very pleased to read the comments welcoming you by the other guys. Human nature being what it is, you will encounter narrow-minded people who complain "early and often" about everything because they lead dreadful lives and envy those who are enjoying doing what they secretly wish to experience themselves. Pay no attention to them and wear what YOU want, when YOU want. I was a pharmacist for 36 years (in both hospital and retail settings), and wore string-bikini underwear the entire time under my dress clothes. I enjoyed comfort and support, felt sexy as hell, and no one was the wiser(!) All kidding aside...so what? How does one's choice of underwear or swimwear determine our sexuality or how we live our lives? That's right! It doesn't. It CAN reflect (positively) on being smart about comfort and support AND positively expressing our sense of sensuality and sexuality when with a partner or on the beach, for example. If a guy works hard on taking care of his body and has the lower abs and upper legs (along with everything else) to show for it, a string bikini, thong or g-string is the way to go. Ye gods an easier look at those upper legs, bulge or bellybutton is NOT going to bring on pestilence!!! You express some degree of concern in beginning this journey, and that's okay. Think of starting your microwear journey as in the same category as learning to ride a bike or driving a car. You get better and more comfortable with time! Think of this new approach to an article of clothing as a holistic part of self-care: eating right, working out, being a caring and friendly person, the whole nine yards. As you settle in and read the posts, you will find all kinds of suggestions about various forms and brands of men's microwear (both underwear and swimwear) to try, and great places (beaches and the like) to enjoy micro swimwear. Being able to PM other members is another great feature. A new year is always a great time to try new approaches. Let YOU enjoying the freedom of men's microwear be your new goal!!! Try different brands to see which you like the best. As you gain confidence, you may want to try a beach vacation in a location where microwear (for both men and women) is welcome, and go from to Go for it!