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As I spend days on the phone at work and going to bed. In between phone on the darkest of brightness level. Till I’m home alone after stressful long days of hiding in within company that is around at unwanted times of needed privacy, I can’t never seem to respectfully get

Why from this forum, to Flickr. Even on through labeled friend through rigorous profile scouting and searching through discussion with key words from tags on every other media I possesses. Why am I the only black or dark male that be found with all members through social media(as to some people of many have the same formats photos to multiple profiles; along with some of the same friends. How come no one I inbox and prove

I am truly ALONE ON HERE!!!!

The only young dark male that is straight to everyone knowledge.

There is a stigma that straight men shouldn't wear minimal underwear or swimwear - skin color doesn't matter in that regard. I have actually talked to some gay men that say they have a difficult time finding a partner, because the guy they are interested in thinks their underwear isn't masculine enough. How is that for a 180, a gay man not picking another gay man because he thinks his underwear is to gay?!? If you are looking to chat with another man of color I have two that I follow on IG that would be good. The first is kevincarnell, he is gay, has a great underwear/swimwear collection that he shows off regularly but he also is very fitness driven, his workouts would kill me. The other is kendrellwhite_ - again his fitness/workout routine would kill me, but also a straight black man that likes to wear minimal underwear to show off his work. Both of these guys clearly spend more time in the gym than I ever will, but they are also not afraid to show off their hard work in minimal style underwear.

I’m not gay, it’s just I don’t want to be open and know as the only straight man to wear the aame

I've been following all of your posts with not only interest, but concern for your health and well-being. You are among friends here, and you are doing something very good for yourself: putting your feelings of pain into words and expressing yourself. I think the other members of the Forum will agree with me that there are plenty of straight black men who are into fitness and enjoy rocking microwear! The chances are quite good that there are many straight black bodybuilders who wear string posing suits in bodybuilding competitions, for example. You and I have one thing in common that has influenced our feelings of being "less than:" difficult experiences in growing up that severely damaged our self-confidence and self-assurance. (For me, it was emotional and physical abuse at the hands of so-called "peers" in my neighborhood and school who, as it turns out, were most likely caught in the living hell of having alcoholic parents. More than one died early in life.) We have both persevered, have whole and healthy bodies, and are enjoying life. (I enjoyed a fulfilling career, and have much love and happiness in my life, with many fulfilling hobbies and interests.) Give thanks for your fit body, and keep up the good work. Enjoy the microwear you have, and wear it with confidence! Do NOT pay attention to those who would belittle you, because they are NOT worth your time!!! THEIR opinions do NOT matter. What you choose to wear is NOT their business, NOT their choice! Members of the Forum who are in SoCal: please give our friend some suggestions on beaches in the area where microwear for men and women is welcome. "Why," your mission (should you decide to accept it! ) is to go to a welcoming beach and ENJOY yourself. And also remember that you may see some attractive , fit ladies in microwear who would welcome your company as a fellow microwear enthusiast! (The ladies may think the guys wearing "bored" shorts might as well cover up in a blanket, if that's all they can manage! Geez, what are they trying to HIDE?!? ) You can do it! Give thanks for each new day, focus on proper boundaries, take care of your needs in a holistic manner, and work to be a kind and caring person in all aspects of your life. Help your friends and neighbors, and greet others you encounter when out and about. Strike up conversations with others when the opportunity presents itself. Keep us informed of your progress. We care!

WhyDoILikeBri3fs wrote: Wed Jun 05, 2024 10:05 am I’m not gay, it’s just I don’t want to be open and know as the only straight man to wear the aame

I never said you were gay, I gave you an example of a gay man and a straight man that have a lot in common and neither let the world's opinions bother them (at least in front of IG LOL). I'm not gay either, married with two kids but still love to rock a thong under my business clothes. Not for the world, but for me. My wife couldn't give two shits about what underwear I wear. I do agree with microbikiniman - don't let race or others sexual preference limit your enjoyable time on earth. Life is too short.

I think there's any number of reasons why there isn't a widespread bit of knowledge about what other people might or might not be wearing -- the biggest one being that it's not ordinarily a subject of every day conversation. I've told the story elsewhere here so I won't repeat it, but my first roommate in college was African-American and had a bunch of string bikinis and bikinis that he wore exclusively. Completely random accident that we were assigned as roommates! But we got along great and obviously had that in common which led to some funny moments from time to time. That was back in the early-mid 90s.

WhyDoILikeBri3fs wrote: Wed Jun 05, 2024 8:33 am As I spend days on the phone at work and going to bed. In between phone on the darkest of brightness level. Till I’m home alone after stressful long days of hiding in within company that is around at unwanted times of needed privacy, I can’t never seem to respectfully get

Why from this forum, to Flickr. Even on through labeled friend through rigorous profile scouting and searching through discussion with key words from tags on every other media I possesses. Why am I the only black or dark male that be found with all members through social media(as to some people of many have the same formats photos to multiple profiles; along with some of the same friends. How come no one I inbox and prove

I am truly ALONE ON HERE!!!!

The only young dark male that is straight to everyone knowledge.

I am not black but I am mixed (white/South Asian) so my skin is slightly dark.

I promise you aren’t alone. I’m a black male in my early 40’s who first began wearing bikini and thong underwear my freshman year of college back in 2000. I have spoken about my experiences and influences in other posts so I won’t revisit that here. Back then I felt similar to you that I must be the only one as none of my friends, classmates or roommate wore such underwear to my knowledge. None of the black athletes, rappers, actors would have been caught in such underwear at that time so I felt I was the only one and had no frame of reference for myself. I was always wearing these styles in secret and felt as though I would be judged and ridiculed. I eventually would wear boxer briefs out of this fear and would do this until I graduated undergrad. Fast forward years later I realized that the choice of underwear that I wear has nothing to do with my sexuality and I wear this underwear because I want to and enjoy these styles. I’m pretty sure there are others like me, black male, but it’s not discussed openly, which is why blogs and forums like this can be helpful and why I participated in the Married Str8 Trio discussion and blogs on this website. No one in my friend group, family members etc know of the underwear I wear. Outside of me the only person who knows is my wife who is cool with it and doesn’t judge. Hopefully if there are other black males out there they will speak on their experiences in forums such as this.

Something DEFINITELY happened in the late 90s with the boxer wildfire burning across society, at least in the US. It's a pity that people felt such pressure; I was out of undergrad by the late 90s, and was happily onto grad school. My African-American roommate my freshman year of college, whom I spoke of before, always wore bikinis and was on the football team as well; he was not the only one who wore bikinis. I wasn't on the football team, but I'd say at least 25-30% of the dorm wore bikinis. Later, when I was off campus, with another roommate, we both wore bikinis as well. How quickly things changed, I suppose!

I'm a white boy so I can't speak to what you men have had to deal with in wearing skimpy underwear styles. I did grow up in the South (Alabama) in an area with a lot of black folks and liked listening to R&B, Hiphop, rap, etc., so I somewhat understand the homophobia and toxic masculinity in that culture. I recently came across a video MC Hammer did back in the day that I had not seen. He was rocking a speedo at a pool with a whole lotta hot girls in bikinis and I thought man that is bold! I'm glad you're here on the forums and realized that your choice in underwear doesn't define your sexuality or masculinity.