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Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2022 9:15 pm
by David_NC
Fabric guy I have been in your shoes. I wore thongs years ago and stopped. But I wanted to start wearing them again, so way back in 2020 I had a talk with my wife. She already knew I had an obsession with underwear but didn’t realize thongs were part of it. We talked I explained how thongs give me a boost of confidence, that I wear them for me and no one else (except her of course) she thought it odd at first but basically didn’t care either way. I know some wives won’t be supportive but if you explain it clearly and if she loves you she will understand. I now wear thongs 5+ days a week, occasionally a brief or bikini wins for the day.
Good luck with your chat
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2023 1:01 am
by Aberman
Womens’ attitudes can be problematic with regard to thong wear and I think they can be probably divided into 4 sections .
1. Fear of a gay side or bi side to her man’s psyche .
2. Fear of a fetish ( I believe men are much more into fetishes imho)
3. Just plain don’t like them !
My girlfriend wears thongs for me almost exclusively because she knows they turn me on . But just doesn’t like me in them ( she’s in that third catégorie ) preferring me in hipsters for intimate times . I’m prepared to accept that because she had the right to her turn ons too . It’s a pity but there it is . The rest of the time I will wear tangas in bright colours to keep me happy and as for the thongs , well they will be kept for solo beach wear and there will be plenty of that .
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2023 4:24 am
by TANGA TANGA
Aberman wrote: Fri Mar 10, 2023 1:01 am
Womens’ attitudes can be problematic with regard to thong wear and I think they can be probably divided into 4 sections .
1. Fear of a gay side or bi side to her man’s psyche .
2. Fear of a fetish ( I believe men are much more into fetishes imho)
3. Just plain don’t like them !
My girlfriend wears thongs for me almost exclusively because she knows they turn me on . But just doesn’t like me in them ( she’s in that third catégorie ) preferring me in hipsters for intimate times . I’m prepared to accept that because she had the right to her turn ons too . It’s a pity but there it is . The rest of the time I will wear tangas in bright colours to keep me happy and as for the thongs , well they will be kept for solo beach wear and there will be plenty of that .
I can understand why men who are in an intimate relationship will forego the pleasure of wearing a thong to keep their other half happy, but it makes me uneasy because who's to say that the partner may also decide they don't like you growing a beard or wearing your hair a particular way. I know if the roles were reversed and a woman was being told she can't wear makeup, skimpy underwear, or dress in a particular way, the advice would be to get out asap.
You mention that your girlfriend wears thongs because they turn you on, but does she actually like wearing them? If she does, then why deny you the right to do the same?
I know all relationships are built to a certain extent on compromise,but a man wishing to wear a particular style of men's underwear should not even be open for debate.
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2023 4:37 am
by Aberman
It's a very fair and valid point you make . I think it's not so much that I am prevented from wearing them , it's rather that I think it's not a hill I wish to die on !
I want to wear something intimately that she finds attractive ,rather than what I find attractive . Also I am talking here about the intimate times . For general use I would just wear what I feel interests me . Relationships are not really all the same . I think it is possibly true that many women , in our present culture , regard thongs as quite girly , and so don't want to see their men wearing them . It is not my view and I am sure not yours and I wish it was different . When I am wearing something like a 1/4 back muscleskins with 1/4 inch sides it just feels so great to me , but there will be some people who believe it looks feminine . It is a cross we bear !
Very interesting to hear your views TANGA and I love these nuanced discussions
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2023 8:18 am
by TANGA TANGA
Aberman wrote: Fri Mar 10, 2023 4:37 am
It's a very fair and valid point you make . I think it's not so much that I am prevented from wearing them , it's rather that I think it's not a hill I wish to die on !
I want to wear something intimately that she finds attractive ,rather than what I find attractive . Also I am talking here about the intimate times . For general use I would just wear what I feel interests me . Relationships are not really all the same . I think it is possibly true that many women , in our present culture , regard thongs as quite girly , and so don't want to see their men wearing them . It is not my view and I am sure not yours and I wish it was different . When I am wearing something like a 1/4 back muscleskins with 1/4 inch sides it just feels so great to me , but there will be some people who believe it looks feminine . It is a cross we bear !
Very interesting to hear your views TANGA and I love these nuanced discussions
Glad you took my comments in the spirit that they were intended. I'm sure there are many guys who, like you, feel that "it's not a hill I wish to die on" when it comes to maintaining an intimate relationship.
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2023 6:08 pm
by Madaboutuw
In reading through this post, a question came to my mind - does a person wear what they like, or what their significant other likes to see when the clothes come off?
Myself - married for quite a while (divorced now) and fortunate to have had someone who enjoyed my preference - bikinis and less. I would not, however, have changed my preference to suit what she liked. I mean, for sex, what type underwear does it matter?
At this point in my life, I have to say that quite a few people know my preference and I have never had a negative comment.
Just curious to see what others have experienced in this regard and your feelings on there matter.
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2023 3:33 am
by Aberman
Madaboutuw wrote: Sat Mar 11, 2023 6:08 pm
In reading through this post, a question came to my mind - does a person wears what they like, or what their significant other likes to see when the clothes come off?
Myself - married for quite a while (divorced now) and fortunate to have had someone who enjoyed my preference - bikinis and less. I would not, however, have changed my preference to suit what she liked. I mean, for sex, what type underwear does it matter?
At this point in my life, I have to say that quite a few people know my preference and I have never had a negative comment.
Just curious to see what others have experienced in this regard and your feelings on there matter.
Thanks Nadaboutuw , another intelligent post . My feeling is that I would hope my partner shares my preferences for what I want to wear in bed , but that might not be the case . If we pause and turn it round for a moment , supposing my girl came to bed with a pair of enormous voluminous drawers then I would say "look , this is a passion killer" lets go down the Victoria's Secret route instead" If she did not and ploughed on and wore what she wanted to wear then I would be most disappointed . In the same way , many women just do not find a thong on a a man sexy . (I wish it were different ) . Every relationship dynamic is different and we can only generalise , but it is a fun topic . But broadly I would rather wear something to turn on y partner and not turn her off . The rest of the time I would go with my own preferences .
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2023 5:18 am
by Madaboutuw
I guess when we were going to bed for sex, she could have been wearing a burlap bag and it wouldn't have mattered to me. She always wore regular panties unless it was something I had bought for those special times. And, although I do have to admit the 'special underwear' was a turn on for me, I truly don't think I would have cared about whatever her choice would be for daily wear. Maybe we were just lucky in respecting the other's choice.
Frankly I wore my favorites then, wear them now, and probably always will. To set in my ways at this point, I guess.
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2023 2:47 pm
by JustSomeDude71
My ex used to hand me her lace thong panties... she liked me to wear them during foreplay. She never complained about my underwear preferences, but after we divorced she told me that she didn't care about underwear... basically she just pretended to be turned on by me wearing string bikinis and thongs for her.
Re: Thong Dilemma
Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2023 4:22 pm
by Guitar T
Maybe I have been fortunate. The women in my life have all accepted and likes my choice of thongs. They have often bought thongs for me to wear, picked out the thong for me to wear for the day, or asked what thong I would be wearing to the beach so she could match her bikini to my swimwear. If she asked me to wear something else I probably would for special occasions. The only things I would not wear would be boxers and boxer briefs. There is just too much fabric to deal with. Overall I am just much more comfortable wearing a thong or cheeky cut bikini.