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They all just caught me. Some laughed, some called me gay. A few accepted right away. A few came around later.

I just hid from ones that cared until it ended.

The ones that shared their panties or bought me pairs when they went shopping were awesome fun

David_NC wrote: Wed Apr 30, 2025 1:15 pm I waited almost 8 years after saying "I do" to tell my wife I wanted to add thongs to daily wear. I wore them on occasion, but she never knew and I eventually wanted to wear them more often. However, in your case, you already wear them. So they are a part of you and your routine. I like the idea of letting her find them in the laundry, if she asks about them just be yourself (calm and cool) and say yeah they are mine - not calling attention to them will make them more natural. She may never have had a male friend wear them and want to see you in them - and that can lead to some fun times. I also like, the idea of her "finding" them when you two are in a situation where your pants would be off. Still can be a lot of fun. Your third option is similar to how I told my wife, I just sort of told her. I had already been wearing bikinis so a thong wasn't too much more of a stretch, even though it kind of was. I think the topic coming up in a more natural setting will seem less invasive - blurting out, hey I wear thongs, might be a little more over the top than she can handle. But you know her personality and will be the best judge on how to bring it up.

I wish I had read this thread before I took the leap. Perspective from another married guy who waited a very long time before introducing my thong interest to my wife:

Not knowing a better way to approach the conversation I tried David’s second option of revealing a thong to my wife by walking around the kitchen with just a thong and a tshirt while waiting for her to come home from the store. Not unusual in the respect we are very comfortable seeing each other in the house with little to nothing on.

The reaction was far from ideal. The look on her face when we saw me was complete confusion and disbelief. She told me to go upstairs and put pants on and we’ll talk about it after she had time to absorb what she saw. For weeks afterwards it was numerous conversations about why “normal” underwear were no longer OK, this seems really out of character and is something concerning going on with me, why would you want the strap up your butt, I can’t get used to the look of them on you, this seems weird, etc, etc.

More time has gotten my wife more comfortable but she’s still not totally there. I have to believe if I had more open conversation at the outset and considered her opinions it would have gone better. Still would have taken time to process with her, but I think she would have appreciated me considering her thoughts and gotten on board more quickly.

But no matter what path you choose it is still a risk due to preconceived notions about what is / isn’t appropriate for a man to wear. That is just the unfortunate double standard and was my reservation about going down this road to begin with. I’m not regretting the decision though. It was the right call but have to keep working through the consequences of the decision.

That’s my two cents

I have never had a negative reaction from any of the 7 women that I have been with regarding my personal choices in undergarments. But on the flip-side, I wonder what would happen if (as a joke, or to make a point) one of us went out and bought four 10-packs of huge, white cotton granny panties and presented them to our wives or girlfriends and said, I don't think it's appropriate for a lady to be wearing thongs, G-strings or bikinis, so I have thrown out all of your underwear and I would like for you to start wearing these from now on!

What do you think their reaction would be?!

I just don't get the double standard.......

@JL Thong - sorry that happened - I'm lucky my wife "gets it".

+1 on NoOnesOnion87, if we told our wife/gf they couldn't wear a thong.....well, I'd be living in the doghouse

Thank you friends. The reverse logic is certainly hard to comprehend, especially when it hits home. I assumed a little more open minded nature from a long term partner who wears sexy lingerie herself. I can’t help but thinking our upbringing in conservative Christian churches and living in a very conservative area definitely impacts this whole situation. Nonetheless I love everything about a thong. Once you try, it is an exhilarating experience. Superior comfort, soft thin material, and the sleek look. It is wonderful. I don’t have an impressively large package nor do I have a very full butt and the thong does wonders accentuating both. It has positively impacted my body image and sex drive. I’m masturbating more than I have in years because I am obsessed with how alive I feel when putting one on. The benefits outweigh my wife’s relative discomfort. I will press on. It just may be awhile until I can add to my collection and try out even smaller micro g-strings, which is my next fascination.

Thanks to all on this forum. The encouragement is quite uplifting. Makes me not feel weird. In fact very much the opppsite. Keep up the positivity!

JL

I’d further add that the quality and intensity of my solo sessions has greatly improved. I’m dealing with the reality of middle age and ED struggles. Sometimes I can get there spontaneously without the help of viagra. That is a huge confidence boost. Amazing experience all the way around when you allow yourself to fully embrace all the aspects of diving into the fetish enthusiastically.

I have gotten comments on both sides of the ball. From I can't understand you are wearing those, to those that actually love it. My current gf the conversation started after the first time we got intimate. I had on joe Snyder bikini , I wanted to go little conservative, but still be true to what I like wear. She actually felt them before seeing them . Without going into details, she commented how she was intrigued about my underwear. She hadn't seen a guy wearing bikinis before. We had a conversation about underwear and eventually she asked if I wore thongs and certainly said I did. I told her why I wore them and she is totally supportive of me wearing them . She has bought me thongs, bikinis and jockstraps for my birthday and Christmas. I feel really lucky , because I know how feels to have someone that can't figure out why I wore skimpier underwear. Eventually the conversation will come up telling her you wear thongs. Wether you happen to wear them in front of her, finding out some other way. I hope she will be supportive.

I was dating my now wife many years ago. She always wore a thong. I would joke with her about it. I sooo wanted to try one. I just kept asking her how it feels in her rear. After a few months she asked me if I wanted to find out. I acted like know way is a strap going up my rear. A few days later she bought me one. I put on a little show saying no way. Finally I put it on and had to admit to her I loved the strap in my rear. Been wearing thongs for 26 years now.

That is great that she bought your first thong. And obviously she fully supports you wearing a thong. So cool you have her a little show also. Wives should be more supportive of men wearing sexy underwear.

She has bought me probably 100s of thongs over the years. We have always been very supportive of each other. I love it when she says let’s go for a tight tail work around the lake. Pull our thongs up high and show the whale tail’s!