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CrossfiThong wrote: Wed Jan 29, 2025 1:04 pm Hello! Gay Latino married man here, 35 years old. I’ve been wearing thongs since I was 17. Most of the time, I wear them to the gym or as everyday underwear, but lately, I’ve been enjoying bikinis—I like the way the underwear line shows under my pants.

I also noticed you were discussing whether certain underwear styles feel "too gay." This is a common conversation in the gay community. Many associate masculinity with a muscular guy wearing black Calvin Klein boxers. Meanwhile, thongs are often linked to circuit party culture or seen as more feminine.

mbit415 wrote: Mon Jan 20, 2025 2:01 pm

David_NC wrote: Mon Jan 20, 2025 11:35 am when they see he wears thongs find it to gay.

I am straight but I do enjoy watching some gay porn too, and always found it funny that gay men rarely wear thongs in porn, unless you look at trans porn, some of the 'twink' stuff, or femdom stuff. There seems to be more thongs in some of the retro 80-90's straight and gay porn, which I enjoy hunting for.

athongsnook wrote: Tue Apr 01, 2025 8:30 pm I just wish we could move beyond categorisation, that we could move to being sexual people. That fashion could move to being just a choice of what you like and not gendered.

I would be bi in the categorised world, but that would be a recent revelation and at 54 changes nothing about my love for my wife and my current life. I wear thongs mostly, would love to wear a dress (waist bands really do suck) and or skirt, but don't feel society is there yet. Would love the variety of materials, colours and cuts of women's clothing to be available in men's ranges.

I know it will be a long time till this is the case but we can dream and thank goodness for this forum where people can be people and fashion is just what you like to wear.