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Posted: **Fri Jan 27, 2023 10:33 am**

Hi Downunder thank you for the tips. Tbh that is something that I have been concerned about not liking them or they don’t fit right. It would be awesome to see them in stores but as I have read by many people in the forum majority or mens thong are online. Is there any place that might have in store like department store?

As for price I did want to keep in budget friendly as I’m asking for something that extra if that makes sense and not boxers. It didn’t cross my mind about getting erection. I did get them w lot and may need a pouch with little more room if possible I guess.

I appreciate your advice and I know for sure it could take time to find the right brand and based on from what I read on forum can take some time but is something I look forward to doing.

If only they had a guys version of Victoria secret but with Mens different brands

Posted: **Fri Jan 27, 2023 2:42 pm**

I hate to be a downer but just a few things to consider:

1. they are offering to pay (it's a gift)
2. you don't know if you will like them
3. they are on a budget
4. they may not like the idea of getting a thong for a 15 year old (or a minor at all, it may look inappropriate for an adult to buy something such as a thong, thongs are seen as sexual, and not appropriate for a minor. i.e. dont get your hopes up...)

I say if u are used to boxers but want something tighter and that they will likely be more willing to buy, I say try briefs (or go back to briefs) and instead of FTL or Hanes aka shit briefs ask them to get you higher quality briefs such as Calvin Klein Cotton classics, Jockey yfronts etc.

those brands are also more likely to be sold at a department store vs a thong for men/teen boys.

I again hate to be a downer but once you are 18 and can afford it yourself, buy thongs or whatever. but as a gift I think compromise with briefs (higher quality as i said) is fair....

Posted: **Fri Jan 27, 2023 3:45 pm**

Hi fbbnate no worries at all thank you for input. I have thought of that myself but cannot help it to want to ask. I know they are gifts and I should be thankful. I’m not saying I am not but I would awesome to wear them. There is someone I have always considered asking as I am a little more closer to and it’s my local youth pastor but idk. I have thought about what I want to say and how I should ask over and over and it just seems like those are my two options. I can’t help it I’m sorry and it seems like waiting till 18 is so far away. I have thought about asking youth pastor just cause I think he is pretty awesome but I just feel like it might get turned around in me and me going to hell and what not. It’s hard not having many male role models in my life. And I wouldn’t ask a female cause idk I feel embarrassed about it lol

I hope you don’t see me as an unappreciative but just a curious about new style of underwear.

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 2:52 pm**

Miguel, I would like to join with the other members in offering you a warm welcome to the Forum. I'm very pleased to see so many members offering you sound, helpful advice. My Forum name sums up my own approach to men's "microwear," in both underwear and for the beach.( My own underwear choice is the string bikini.) I certainly wish I had a Forum like this to turn to when I was 15...56 years ago(!!) Your questions and concerns are valid...to a point. And here is MY point in that regards. Do NOT let ANYONE dictate to you about what your choices should be when it comes to clothing of a personal nature like underwear (or, for that matter, swimwear). While thongs for men have actually been around for some time, I have the advantage of life experience to be able to tell you that their appearance to the degree we see now (for both men and women) is relatively recent. Meaning that, human nature being what it is, there is a "learning curve" for "Society At Large" to be accepting. (It was the same in regards to the environmental movement as well as acceptance of women's abilities in the workplace, believe it or not!) Your interest in thongs as underwear for comfort and support is valid. Another point we all have to consider are the changes your body and self-confidence are undergoing at your age. The foundation for successful and fulfilling intimacy is a positive body image. Your feelings about your underwear put you in a league of men with a healthy approach to such. Now, here comes some "caps..." HAVE THE COURAGE OF YOUR CONVICTIONS! The man taking you shopping might like "microwear" himself. Tell him what you want! Do NOT worry about his reaction! (I doubt if he will end the shopping!) Talk to the youth pastor! NO, you are NOT, repeat NOT

going to hell! (Geez, if that was the case, every nudist beach on earth would be roasting in Purgatory by now!) Keep an eye out for thongs! You never know what may pop up! Consider men's string-bikini underwear as well. (One of my favorites over time has been Hanes, and I found some 3-packs at Wal-Mart recently! I've also gotten some "teeny" Jockey string bikinis on Amazon.) Another point...(more caps)...enjoying men's microwear DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY! It is, has always, and WILL always be worn, and enjoyed, by straight, gay and bi men. (And, yes, women too!!!) Your body, your choice, YOUR enjoyment and fulfillment! If you've "done the math" on my age, I'm 71 years young, born when Harry Truman was president. Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt once said something that has stuck with me as a personal affirmation, and I want you to learn it as well (some caps, please...) "Nobody can make you feel bad about yourself...WITHOUT YOUR HELP." And in regards to the other issues you are facing in life, I wish you strength and courage in working to live your best life. Here is the affirmation I begin each day with, courtesy of baseball legend Lou Gehrig: "Today, I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the earth." Miguel, when Mr. Gehrig spoke these words during a ceremony marking his retirement from baseball, he was terminally ill. You, I, and the rest of us have the joy of living our best lives. Live fully!

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:30 pm**

I"m a little late to the party, but welcome to the forums. You are at an age when a lot of guys I've interact with had started their journey into other styles of underwear. Though you are at a disadvantage with it being hard to find skimpy styles in stores at all. It wasn't until I was 17 I discovered I could go to the store to try string bikini underwear. I was interested a couple years prior.

It's hard to say how someone would react to you asking. I would think a woman would actually be more open minded than a man. Though guess it would depend on their personalities. Guess the worse they can say is no.

One thought that I don't know if would work or not, but would require potentially no asking. There are gift cards that work like credit cards available. If you're able to purchase one, then you could possibly order a pair for yourself online. Don't know how mail is handle to you though.

Like mentioned already you may have to compromise and pick something smaller in underwear than you wear now. You still might be able to find string bikinis or at least a bikini cut at a local store. It's at least a move in the right direction.

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:48 pm**

Microbikiniman wrote: Sat Jan 28, 2023 2:52 pm Miguel, I would like to join with the other members in offering you a warm welcome to the Forum. I'm very pleased to see so many members offering you sound, helpful advice. My Forum name sums up my own approach to men's "microwear," in both underwear and for the beach.( My own underwear choice is the string bikini.) I certainly wish I had a Forum like this to turn to when I was 15...56 years ago(!!) Your questions and concerns are valid...to a point. And here is MY point in that regards. Do NOT let ANYONE dictate to you about what your choices should be when it comes to clothing of a personal nature like underwear (or, for that matter, swimwear). While thongs for men have actually been around for some time, I have the advantage of life experience to be able to tell you that their appearance to the degree we see now (for both men and women) is relatively recent. Meaning that, human nature being what it is, there is a "learning curve" for "Society At Large" to be accepting. (It was the same in regards to the environmental movement as well as acceptance of women's abilities in the workplace, believe it or not!) Your interest in thongs as underwear for comfort and support is valid. Another point we all have to consider are the changes your body and self-confidence are undergoing at your age. The foundation for successful and fulfilling intimacy is a positive body image. Your feelings about your underwear put you in a league of men with a healthy approach to such. Now, here comes some "caps..." HAVE THE COURAGE OF YOUR CONVICTIONS! The man taking you shopping might like "microwear" himself. Tell him what you want! Do NOT worry about his reaction! (I doubt if he will end the shopping!) Talk to the youth pastor! NO, you are NOT, repeat NOT going to hell! (Geez, if that was the case, every nudist beach on earth would be roasting in Purgatory by now!) Keep an eye out for thongs! You never know what may pop up! Consider men's string-bikini underwear as well. (One of my favorites over time has been Hanes, and I found some 3-packs at Wal-Mart recently! I've also gotten some "teeny" Jockey string bikinis on Amazon.) Another point...(more caps)...enjoying men's microwear DOES NOT MAKE YOU GAY! It is, has always, and WILL always be worn, and enjoyed, by straight, gay and bi men. (And, yes, women too!!!) Your body, your choice, YOUR enjoyment and fulfillment! If you've "done the math" on my age, I'm 71 years young, born when Harry Truman was president. Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt once said something that has stuck with me as a personal affirmation, and I want you to learn it as well (some caps, please...) "Nobody can make you feel bad about yourself...WITHOUT YOUR HELP." And in regards to the other issues you are facing in life, I wish you strength and courage in working to live your best life. Here is the affirmation I begin each day with, courtesy of baseball legend Lou Gehrig: "Today, I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the earth." Miguel, when Mr. Gehrig spoke these words during a ceremony marking his retirement from baseball, he was terminally ill. You, I, and the rest of us have the joy of living our best lives. Live fully!

Hi mircobikiniman

Thank you so much for the advice. You made good points and some things I never thought or new about. I appreciate your kind words about body image and the changes I am going through as it’s no joke. It’s a lot of mixed feelings I have about sexuality and about my own body image and how u should look that’s for sure. thank you again for those kind words. It definitely has made me think about things differently. As far as the string bikini I have seen some online and I didn’t realize the had them at Walmart. As much as they look awesome I lean more towards the thongs because I feel like it would look nicer and I guess sexier haha. I have thought about asking my youth pastor as I am closer to him after all. I joke about hell part but I don’t want it to be turned against me I guess and judged for it. I mean if I had to choose would it be better to ask youth pastor for that style of underwear?

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:55 pm**

tbdrawer wrote: Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:30 pm I"m a little late to the party, but welcome to the forums. You are at an age when a lot of guys I've interact with had started their journey into other styles of underwear. Though you are at a disadvantage with it being hard to find skimpy styles in stores at all. It wasn't until I was 17 I discovered I could go to the store to try string bikini underwear. I was interested a couple years prior.

It's hard to say how someone would react to you asking. I would think a woman would actually be more open minded than a man. Though guess it would depend on their personalities. Guess the worse they can say is no.

One thought that I don't know if would work or not, but would require potentially no asking. There are gift cards that work like credit cards available. If you're able to purchase one, then you could possibly order a pair for yourself online. Don't know how mail is handle to you though.

Like mentioned already you may have to compromise and pick something smaller in underwear than you wear now. You still might be able to find string bikinis or at least a bikini cut at a local store. It's at least a move in the right direction.

Hi tbdrawer. It’s nice to hear that at one time many of the guys were my age interested in thongs that’s so awesome. I thought about what you said about women being open minded and the few who I could ask I feel would question me more about it. I have thought long and hard about who to ask and the only two I have thought was the volunteer or my youth pastor. I have thought about the gift cards before but I don’t have any means to go out and buy them. Plus so called mail is delivered to general place so it’s kinda opened in a way depending what it is especially if not normal stuff we don’t usually get. Plus some I have seen are expensive online and I don’t have the means to just buy unless I find a job but idk when I can do that

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 9:27 pm**

Miguel05 wrote: Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:55 pm Hi tbdrawer. It’s nice to hear that at one time many of the guys were my age interested in thongs that’s so awesome. I thought about what you said about women being open minded and the few who I could ask I feel would question me more about it. I have thought long and hard about who to ask and the only two I have thought was the volunteer or my youth pastor. I have thought about the gift cards before but I don’t have any means to go out and buy them. Plus so called mail is delivered to general place so it’s kinda opened in a way depending what it is especially if not normal stuff we don’t usually get. Plus some I have seen are expensive online and I don’t have the means to just buy unless I find a job but idk when I can do that

Comfortable is key in being able to ask. Also if you are denied a thong, you could try for something else skimpy. I don't know at what age you are allowed to start working. May vary by state. There is always fast food, grocery stores, Walmart. Thought mail could be a problem.

Posted: **Sat Jan 28, 2023 10:08 pm**

tbdrawer wrote: Sat Jan 28, 2023 9:27 pm
Miguel05 wrote: Sat Jan 28, 2023 8:55 pm Hi tbdrawer. It’s nice to hear that at one time many of the guys were my age interested in thongs that’s so awesome. I thought about what you said about women being open minded and the few who I could ask I feel would question me more about it. I have thought long and hard about who to ask and the only two I have thought was the volunteer or my youth pastor. I have thought about the gift cards before but I don’t have any means to go out and buy them. Plus so called mail is delivered to general place so it’s kinda opened in a way depending what it is especially if not normal stuff we don’t usually get. Plus some I have seen are expensive online and I don’t have the means to just buy unless I find a job but idk when I can do that
Comfortable is key in being able to ask. Also if you are denied a thong, you could try for something else skimpy. I don't know at what age you are allowed to start working. May vary by state. There is always fast food, grocery stores, Walmart. Thought mail could be a problem.

I see what you mean I guess if I had to choose based on comfort I would probably say my youth pastor since I have known him longer of course and see him on weekly basis? The only thing is I guess bringing up the subject.

Posted: **Sun Jan 29, 2023 4:22 pm**

Miguel, I want to thank YOU for the kind words! I want to cover two points with you. ONE: it appears that the best person to talk to is the youth pastor. It appears that you trust him. Remember, he was your age once, and also had questions and concerns along the lines of yours.Since underwear is a garment of a personal nature (hidden by our clothes in everyday life), who knows, he might enjoy microwear himself! You are at an age where negotiation (as a lifelong skill) can be learned and mastered, so...have at it! Ask him for an appointment to discuss a private matter. I remember reading about one of President Kennedy's leading leadership points some years ago, and I try to practice it in all of my one-on-one interactions...establish steady eye contact with the other person. It is not a stare! You are establishing an open, empathetic connection, and projecting self-confidence. You have a goal in mind, and negotiating is part of your action plan to reach your goal. Establish some key talking points about why you would like to try men's thong underwear. Speak in a relaxed manner, making your points. Allow time for his response. The conversation is a two-way street, and, even at 15 years old, you are a young adult, and deserve a chance to state your views and make your case. (Two hints for talking points: personal comfort and support provided by a garment which is not visible to others in everyday life/ overall comfort in the Texas heat!

) TWO: there is nothing unusual about your having concerns about sexuality in general, or your own sexuality in particular. It is an important, even necessary, step in your adult sexual maturity. You are indeed at the age where thoughts and questions about your own orientation will come to mind. You are establishing very important building blocks for your own lifelong approach to intimacy with a partner. Give yourself the time, and freedom, to make your way along this part of your life journey. The single best way to start this journey involves a key non-sexual aspect: work to make caring friendships with the other people in your life, not only fellow young men and young women, but also caring adults. Get involved in group activities with your peers, especially groups organized around your hobbies or favorite activities. Be open and friendly; learn to express yourself with poise. In time, you will start gaining a sense of who you are attracted to as a possible partner: trust me, it will happen at the right time for you! Yep, that's right! It's called...Life's Journey! Live well!

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