True, it's your life, do what's best!
Just a thought: Be grateful that you had those many years when your wife was OK with this hobby.
Mine's a secret from my Mrs. I wore a pair of 3" running shorts in the house recently, and she called them "minuscule."
Just suggesting some gratitude. while you sort this out.
My last time in a bikini or thong
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kiyoothong
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Re: My last time in a bikini or thong
I don't know what to say. I am only 33 years old, so I don't know what it's like to be 70. I just wanna say that it is also hard to wear a thong as a single, heterosexual 33 year old. I literally get no support. Never had a word of compliment from others.
I’ve actually found that wearing thongs has had its benefits for me. I no longer stress about what others think. Right now, I weigh 220lbs (100kg), and while I’m technically still overweight, I’m comfortable with who I am. Some people might say I shouldn’t wear thongs because of my size, but what they don’t know is that I used to weigh 280lbs (126kg), and I wore thongs back then too.
I’m sure you have experienced personal benefits from wearing thongs as well. It doesn’t matter whether others notice or not. Ultimately, the most important thing is doing what makes you happy.
I’ve actually found that wearing thongs has had its benefits for me. I no longer stress about what others think. Right now, I weigh 220lbs (100kg), and while I’m technically still overweight, I’m comfortable with who I am. Some people might say I shouldn’t wear thongs because of my size, but what they don’t know is that I used to weigh 280lbs (126kg), and I wore thongs back then too.
I’m sure you have experienced personal benefits from wearing thongs as well. It doesn’t matter whether others notice or not. Ultimately, the most important thing is doing what makes you happy.
Re: My last time in a bikini or thong
I'm 77 and still wear thongs, even at the Beach. At my age, I am "invisible", no one notices.
If you enjoy the snug feeling of wearing a thong, just put it on first and put other underwear or shorts over it.
If you enjoy the snug feeling of wearing a thong, just put it on first and put other underwear or shorts over it.
Re: My last time in a bikini or thong
Sorry to respond so late. I'm just getting caught up.
outside_time I am really sorry to hear of your wife's reaction.
Just curious, have you had any further conversations with your wife? Any further news or updates?
Is she someone you can talk to about this? Can you share how much her words affect you (without any judgement on her)? Is there a way you can tell her about how expressing yourself this way makes you feel? Is there anything she can do different or anything you can so different? It would be one thing if you were being inappropriately creepy around folks, which you are not. It sounds like she just does not understand. Can you bare your soul to her and share everything? Will this make a difference?
I know many more folks get more comfortable with their bodies as they get older. People also sometimes lose some of their sexual shame they have carried for years and years and become more open and sex positive as they get older.
Is there something of her own that she is carrying by chance?
Thank God, my wife and I have come much more sex and body positive the older we have gotten (though we still do carry around some of that baggage and shame pops up its ugly head sometimes). We are in our 50's, and I am certainly carrying around more table muscle than I used to. None of us are thin and tan (and we are pretty pasty white this winter). Some folks have managed to have a sexual and body image renaissance in their later years.
I am sorry to hear, and I hope that some further conversations can happen around the topic. I hope that you can hang onto this part of yourself and that your wife can come to accept it and/or negotiate some boundaries around it. I hope that there can be some peace around this issue for both of you, and that you can bare your soul to her (and she can hear it with an open heart and mind).
I do not want to discourage you from your own feelings; though, what we see in ourselves and through an image can be distorted by baggage, shame, and an unhealthy cultural norms. As humans, we are all beloved and beautiful. Society may not always see it, but we are all beautiful despite our age, our bellies, you name it.
And kiyoothong - sorry to hear you are not getting any support from folks. You have our support! And my wife would also affirm your choices! As a hetero sexual open minded Christian (though I call myself a recovering christian), I have been where you are (and still am in some ways). Hang in there and glad it has gotten better!
Peace to y'all!
outside_time I am really sorry to hear of your wife's reaction.
Just curious, have you had any further conversations with your wife? Any further news or updates?
Is she someone you can talk to about this? Can you share how much her words affect you (without any judgement on her)? Is there a way you can tell her about how expressing yourself this way makes you feel? Is there anything she can do different or anything you can so different? It would be one thing if you were being inappropriately creepy around folks, which you are not. It sounds like she just does not understand. Can you bare your soul to her and share everything? Will this make a difference?
I know many more folks get more comfortable with their bodies as they get older. People also sometimes lose some of their sexual shame they have carried for years and years and become more open and sex positive as they get older.
Is there something of her own that she is carrying by chance?
Thank God, my wife and I have come much more sex and body positive the older we have gotten (though we still do carry around some of that baggage and shame pops up its ugly head sometimes). We are in our 50's, and I am certainly carrying around more table muscle than I used to. None of us are thin and tan (and we are pretty pasty white this winter). Some folks have managed to have a sexual and body image renaissance in their later years.
I am sorry to hear, and I hope that some further conversations can happen around the topic. I hope that you can hang onto this part of yourself and that your wife can come to accept it and/or negotiate some boundaries around it. I hope that there can be some peace around this issue for both of you, and that you can bare your soul to her (and she can hear it with an open heart and mind).
I do not want to discourage you from your own feelings; though, what we see in ourselves and through an image can be distorted by baggage, shame, and an unhealthy cultural norms. As humans, we are all beloved and beautiful. Society may not always see it, but we are all beautiful despite our age, our bellies, you name it.
And kiyoothong - sorry to hear you are not getting any support from folks. You have our support! And my wife would also affirm your choices! As a hetero sexual open minded Christian (though I call myself a recovering christian), I have been where you are (and still am in some ways). Hang in there and glad it has gotten better!
Peace to y'all!