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Getting the idea over to your woman can be a tricky moment and it is something I need to do properly over the coming weeks , as I’ve lapsed into hipsters , which she likes . But I am going g to wear much smaller stuff with her . I’m just going to say , I find boxers a bit boring and I like these more and they make me feel sexier and they feel more comfortable .. I think that’s an easy and reasonable able approach . It’s rather different if you turn up in a sparkly gold thong straight away ( which wouldn’t be my taste !) . Be moderate and maybe mix it with more standard underwear . I feel more comfortable sleeping in boxers , so I’m going to keep a few pairs of those .

You gotta wear what makes ya happy. We wear microwear cause it's comfy, etc, hopefully she'll know you feel good and it'll be OK. You're not judgy about her underwear choices.... Most men "expect" to see their gf in a thong and we ought to be able to thong, too, if we want.

Hey, I was worried when I started thonging. Didn't know what my wife would think - lucky, she warmed up quickly... (what a relief )

I'm a bit late to the party here, but my advice is to just be confident and own it.

In my experience, I never brought it up to a love interest ahead of time. The first time the clothes come off is when they're allowed to know that I wear thongs, and each time they reacted with a smile. A bit of surprise, maybe some giddy excitement... but always a smile.

I second all the people that say go for it. I second wearing what makes you happy.

In general, if she's in to you, she needs to be into the whole package (no pun intended). Ultimately, it's something you have to negotiate and own if they are not happy with it (which I highly doubt would be the case these days).

I brought up my interest with my wife after we were already married, and she was (and is enthusiastically pro thong and g-string). Though if we were dating all over again, I would just go for it.

I've never been in a serious relationship- only short flings. All of my partners knew about my thong wearing from the very start. Now that I am a born-again Christian, I expect my next partner to be someone from church.

It is still too early to say, but I want to know what it's like to meet a girl from church. Every girl is different, but should I try to take things slowly with a church girl? Some girls from church are not open to sex before marriage, so I may not need to reveal my underwear before marriage.

kiyoothong wrote: Mon May 19, 2025 1:01 am I've never been in a serious relationship- only short flings. All of my partners knew about my thong wearing from the very start. Now that I am a born-again Christian, I expect my next partner to be someone from church.

It is still too early to say, but I want to know what it's like to meet a girl from church. Every girl is different, but should I try to take things slowly with a church girl? Some girls from church are not open to sex before marriage, so I may not need to reveal my underwear before marriage.

Thanks for sharing! Well, both my wife's and my spiritual beliefs have evolved considerably, and my wife and I met through the church (it was really through work and friends). We were long-time Christians then. I was more liberal (for lack of a better word) than her (though she's super open minded now--possibly more than me). I, like her, was also a very strong believer in taking things very very slow despite being open minded (and having an open minded, yet Christian upbringing). That's one thing I am thankful to my parents for. I still think that's a good thing in any relationship no matter one's sexual relationship. (Though I/we do not believe that premarital sex is wrong in any way--though we value taking it slow and fostering other parts of the relationship first.). We were also part of a church (at that time) that believed in no premarital sex (though we observed that many folks were completely hypocritical and did not practice what they preached--including leaders). But that's another story...

Well, my wife and I both got engaged, were both horndogs for one another, got married pretty quick after engagement. She wore sexy things then a couple years later I shared my desire for string bikinis, thongs, and g-strings. She was totally hot to it immediately, and I lucked out in that department. I've been a thonger since, and she friggin loves it. So, we've been happy ever since; though, our spirituality has evolved over the last 20+ years, and we no longer go to church (our opinions and thoughts have changed some). My wife and I talk, and there are some little things we would redo, and one of them for me would have been to stick with bikinis and adopting thongs and g-strings as soon as I was interested. And to have worn them for myself more proudly...

I am a little old fashioned and still think it is a good thing to take things slow, take your time, get to know one another, and be vulnerable in your relationship before you start expressing yourself sexually. Though, I am also very sex positive and do not personally buy into the no sex before marriage thing. I know I needed a long-term investment, vulnerability, and commitment to express myself sexually with my partner. I will also say it's important to be who you are--your true self--whether that be your spiritual beliefs or your sexy underwear preference.

Speaking personally (and this is just me) and knowing what I know now, if a Christian woman is turned off by sexy underwear and your desire to wear it, well, that's her loss. For me, knowing what I know now, it's a non-negotiable. (However, we always have to make compromises for love and partnership.)

There are a ton of wonderful Christian, spiritual women (and women of other traditions and beliefs) out there that would value both your faith AND value a man that confidently wears thongs. And I know that many of these women would gladly wear thongs themselves for their partners as well. I know I am very glad I waited to get married (we both are) as we are both very open and comfortable sharing everything with one another--and wearing micro wear! Whew!

Having known a number of conservative Christian women, sexual expression is just about context and commitment (and for some they do value their tradition's interpretation of the Bible). And some women realize that they may value this belief less!!! Plus, their beliefs may (or may not) evolve and change. Some Christian traditions do not care about premarital sex one bit (just loving your partner, consent, respect, vulnerability, etc). Some Christian traditions strongly discourage premarital sex (and hold true to OT laws against premarital sex among other things...). And I've known quite number of people from conservative traditions that still had premarital sex... Ultimately it's up to you and your partner to decide with integrity.

As you grow in your relationship, and foster vulnerability and communication, you will figure out the premarital sex question--not to mention the thong question. And for some women, marriage is the perfect context for sexual expression and thonging.

Be confident and rock your thong for that is who you are.

Thanks for the reply. Every one's journey is different and unique, and I am sure you and your wife share a relationship that cannot be replicated by others. I guess I am bit hesitant about dating at church because I am not sure how honest I can be. I am quite liberal when it comes to sex, but I don't know if my values and views can be accepted at church.

I have a different question: Would it be a dealbreaker if your new girlfriend didn’t wear thongs or was strongly against them? For me, it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, but I’d probably try to encourage her to give them a try.

kiyoothong wrote: Mon May 26, 2025 2:20 am Thanks for the reply. Every one's journey is different and unique, and I am sure you and your wife share a relationship that cannot be replicated by others. I guess I am bit hesitant about dating at church because I am not sure how honest I can be. I am quite liberal when it comes to sex, but I don't know if my values and views can be accepted at church.

I have a different question: Would it be a dealbreaker if your new girlfriend didn’t wear thongs or was strongly against them? For me, it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker, but I’d probably try to encourage her to give them a try.

Sorry to hear you are concerned about your views not being accepted at your church. You never know--you might meet someone that shares your views or still respects your opinions. You never know till you try and get to know folks. I've had many female Christian friends who have changed their viewpoints, and they too felt like they have had to hide a part of themselves for fear of judgement.

For me, it would be a dealbreaker if my partner did not like me wearing thongs (or really anything that I was comfortably wearing in the right context), or if my partner wasn't open to wearing something I found sexy for me on special occasions.

Though, who knows? For some it's not that important. Things change when you meet the love of your life, and thongs may not end up being that important, which is totally okay.

For me, I had so many ignorant people (mostly weak and fragile alpha males) that labeled me simply because I was a heterosexual who was not aggressive, who wanted to be comfortable in my body, and wanted to wear what I wanted to wear (which was no one's business). I had to walk on eggshells around some folks. So I don't want to ever do that again for anyone. But, that is just me,

Just wear them and let her discover them on her own! If she recoils, then it wasn't meant to be! I can't believe that most women have such hang-ups about men's underwear. I've never had a woman that didn't like the Bikinis, string bikinis and thongs that I have been wearing since I was 14.

Good luck, keep us updated!

kiyoothong wrote: Mon May 19, 2025 1:01 am I've never been in a serious relationship- only short flings. All of my partners knew about my thong wearing from the very start. Now that I am a born-again Christian, I expect my next partner to be someone from church.

It is still too early to say, but I want to know what it's like to meet a girl from church. Every girl is different, but should I try to take things slowly with a church girl? Some girls from church are not open to sex before marriage, so I may not need to reveal my underwear before marriage.

I am a Christ-follower too. When I was 14, I gave my life to the Lord. That's also the day I started wearing bikini and string bikini underwear. I didn't start wearing thongs until I was in my 20s. 39 years later, I don't think there is anything wrong with a Christ-following man wearing thongs or bikinis. The thing is to not let your personal choice of underwear become a false god and supplant Christ in your life.