New to Thong wearing/Discussion w wife

[MarriedGuy1024]

Hello! Glad to be here. I have worn thongs prior to meeting my lovely wife and am ready to return to wearing them. We’ve been married 8 years. I have tried a cheap one from Amazon a few years ago and she was lukewarm. What if coworkers see? On laundry day if they’re out and someone sees, what will they think? Etc. Now, I’m ready to go full time to Thong wearing. I could use some advice on having the convo w my wife prior to just walking through the bedroom in a thong. Yes, we share a bathroom and closet so she’ll see. She does all our laundry as a stay at home mom.

Has anyone had a lukewarm or negative response initially from the wife and then they come around? I need tips!

[tbdrawer]

First off welcome to the forums. I haven't been in your situation, but a few others have that follow my blog and the forums. One recently has had a reasonable response. So hopefully they will chime in more on it. What style are you going from to thongs? I kept with my thong and bikini wearing through my relationships, so that is all my wife has known me in. I told her before we were married, I wanted to wear swim briefs and she encouraged and supported me on trying to achieve that. Guess best is to be upfront with her and say you use to wear thongs and you want to start wearing them again. I think what you need to do is make your wife understand why you like thongs. That seems to be their biggest hang up on them especially with the stereotypes associated with them. Might be easier for her to understand if she wears them too. I have not had anyone find out I wear thongs or bikinis or at least if they have they haven't mentioned it to me. Most people aren't going to see our underwear. Hopefully some will give you a good way to start the conversation with her. Maybe then have her help pick out a pair to start.

Here's a forum topic that is on the subject that may interest you. viewtopic.php?f=5&t=384 Feel free to ask specific questions. Everyone is pretty open on the subject matter. Of course also let us know how things go once you get to it. We're here to support thong and bikini wearing for guys.

[MarriedGuy1024]

I wear briefs and bikinis. Also wear jock straps often, even to sleep in. But she doesn’t comment one way or another. She assumes I’m wearing them bc I’ll get up early to work out. I actually like the combination of support and commando feeling.

She sees the jock straps as functional, sees the thongs as ‘why would you wear those?’ She however wears nothing but thongs, but sees it as purposeful bc she doesn’t like a pantyline.

[tbdrawer]

That's good that it isn't a big jump to a thong then. Well, jocks are seen also as a male style where thongs are still seen as a woman's style, so thongs for guys have more hang ups. Personally I think thongs give better support than jocks. That may be due to jocks being spoiled for me in gym class though they have become more fashionably design now than back then.

I hope your wife finds them comfortable too. No VPL isn't the best reason to wear them in my opinion, but guess that isn't a concern I have. Not sure no VPL is something you can relate to her with or not. I think support is something that might help with a better response from her, since that is more of a function than no VPL. It seems there will be a good chance of many questions when she learns you want to wear thongs. So have to be prepared for a conversation of answering. Why should you have concerns about someone finding out you wear them if she has no concerns people finding out she wears them? Basically it comes down to people thinking thongs aren't masculine, so people start having concerns about it when a guy wants to wear a thong. Don't know if we'll ever defeat that stereotype or not.

[MarriedGuy1024]

Have a date night tonight, basically dinner wo kids. Going to let her know. My talking points are comfort, coolness, support. Any other suggestions?

[JustSomeDude71]

Have a date night tonight, basically dinner wo kids. Going to let her know. My talking points are comfort, coolness, support. Any other suggestions?

Just wear then under your clothes and let her discover them in the natural course of your romantic interlude. If she asks you why you are wearing them, just tell her that you wanted to surprise her with something different and you thought she might like it.

But honestly, men give women too much power over these things. Guys, do your wives ever ask you for permission to wear certain panties or lingerie?! No, they just do it and we're supposed to be okay with it?

[tbdrawer]

Those are probably the best points to use if she question things. Though she should just accept it like JustSomeDude71 pretty much was saying. I understand the stereotypes are what makes everyone question them. That is what we are trying to extinguish here. Wearing thongs doesn't define anything. It is just a choice. Good luck with the conversation.

[David_NC]

Welcome marriedguy1024, you'll find a great support group here and good suggestions to different styles/brands. I was in your shoes just two months ago. I had worn thongs as my normal daily underwear for many years, but stopped and never reintroduced them to my daily wear. I still continued to wear boxer briefs, bikinis and string bikinis just not thong underwear. I got married and still did not introduce back to daily wear, well oddly enough my wife and I just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary this week. I actually brought up the subject to my wife about two months ago - it took me being a part of this group for almost 2 months to get the courage to do so. That day, I wore one of my previously favorite thongs (black CK cotton) and when my wife and I were alone (kids not at home), I casually brought up the subject. At first she was a little weirded by the conversation, then I dropped my shorts and showed her - she wasn't negative or positive at first, but curious. We ended up talking maybe an hour on the subject, in the end she said "I knew you had an underwear fetish, so you can wear whatever you want, doesn't bother me". Well since then I wear a thong as often as I can. I live in the south, so the heat/humidity of the summer isn't great for 100% cotton thongs. I don't have as many non-cotton thongs so I don't get to wear them as often I as I might if I had a larger selection. On a good week, I wear them 4-5 days. They are comfortable, supportive, keep me cooler in the summer (especially if wearing shorts, nice breeze), and sometimes I feel a little more daring in them because I am going against the "norm". I say be honest with your wife, let her know you like to wear them, that it doesn't change who you are or any aspect of the relationship but it is just another pair that you like to wear just like your jocks. Now as for jocks, I have some from athletic styles such as Bike and fashion from CK or Papi and they always seem to have too much material in the under carriage area for me - thongs are a more seamless feel. good luck, keep us posted.

[MarriedGuy1024]

Thanks so much. Nice to hear a positive outcome from someone in my shoes.

JustSomeDude, I agree. She doesn’t ask me what she can wear. But I love it when she’s walking around in a thong, and expect it. I think I should talk to her before she sees me in one. Plus she does our laundry, so she’s going to know sooner rather than later. I do think she has some trepidation bc her mom is up often and helps w laundry. I’m going to offer to wash them myself and keep them in a second hamper. She may say it’s not necessary, but that could alleviate a worry until she gets used to it.

[MarriedGuy1024]

We talked last night over drinks at our favorite restaurant. She’s ‘ok’ with it if it’s what I want to wear. She didn’t seem excited or thrilled, which is understandable. I hope she comes around to like what she sees. I told her I’d launder them so her mom and our house cleaner don’t see them. She said they’ll eventually find out and isn’t too concerned about that. Whoa, nice! My MIL is so cool, can’t wait to see what she says!

She’s very concerned about them coming out over the back of my pants around other people while we’re out or I’m at work. I assured her I’d be mindful but that if she ever notices it’s a problem I’ll stop. Hopefully it won’t be...

Now, on to ordering some!