Wife Opinion

[newthonger]

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[AZThonger]

I’m not married so maybe not much help. The current woman I’m dating though not just accepts them but loves them. I would say take it as an initial win that even if she doesn’t love them, she accepts your enjoyment of them and supports you wearing them.

[David_NC]

My wife’s first comment was, are you telling me you are gay. We then had a nice long conversation, great sex and now I’m in my 6th year wearing them about 99% of the time. My wife says I have too many but has never said a negative comment to me. To her they are just another pair of underwear.

[sensu4]

TLDR:

Started with my gf/wife being taken aback, not liking it, to slow acceptance and then almost full green light and now wearing thong underwear/swimwear with my wife and daughter at home or at the beach. I wear only swim thongs at the pool and progressed to swim rios (half back) at the beac with the mother in law and sister-in-law and husband. And slowly worked up to thong at home and continuing to make progress. Read on for the loooooooong and long of it.


Originally when I started dating my now wife... she'd seen my thong and thought it was another girl's...but explained it was mine. And when we were together, she wasn't too happy about it and took a while before I had to ask if it was ok if I could wear it. She said yes but there were certain bouts of the whole "it's not appropriate" chats. Also wasn't too comfortable just wearing a thong in front of her as I felt uncomfortable and she'd tease why I was shy

Fast forward to being married, having a child and the during which time the whole topic changed to "you have child bla bla bla" and then needing to have boundaries as she was a toddler etc. Didn't help the fact that we were living in different countries due to medical reasons. Otherwise I believe it would've been an more open household. She'd also have hang ups about our daughter not seeing her pubic hair etc...or possibly that region, but breasts were ok . I was a nudist so none of that made sense to me as it was just normal and nothing with society/culture had impinged on it.

So changing in front of our child was not allowed. But fast forward to me being more open with thongs, and slowly worn away most of my wife's objections and she even acquiesced over time as well and said if that's what I like that's what I like and she's ok with it. (one thing you can possibly count on is your wife maturing and becoming more open, but most tend to be puerile and puritan so not sure how that would evolve).

I'd started wearing thong swimwear in the local pools after this point and progressed to swim rios with my wife and daughter and the time after that I wore a smaller rio backed suit with my mother-in-law (mil) and sister-in-law and husband at the local beach on a fairly busy late afternoon. Mind you, I was told that thong swimsuit wouldn't be ok with the extended family.

After this session, while I was lounging on the bed in a small rio brief (somewhat similar to what I wore at the beach) with my wife next to me and daughter at the foot of the bed. As we were just chatting, the mil comes in to put away laundry in the wardrobe and doesn't bat an eye and starts chatting away to my wife while I'm just laying there.

But after that time I'd be more apprehensive around walking around in my rio briefs and would have to make sure the coast is clear or just sprint to avoid being seen.

Then on another trip with just my wife and daughter I wore a swim thong in a somewhat isolated part of the beach but had a few comers and goers. So wearing just a thong walking around the house or changing is another freedom that was gotten. But she'd still be anxious I was in a thong and my mil is around adamant about not walking around a thong in the house and definitely not at the beach.

That was last year, fast forward to the last two days. I had a perfectly aligned day of being at home, everyone was out except me and the mil and I was exercising in our bedroom with the door closed, but usually I'd be in the office working with the door closed. Mind you, I'm still at that stage when I wouldn't have the nerve to just walk out to the bathroom in my underwear if my mil was around.

I knew my mil would open the door and come in thinking no one was in and I would be standing there in my https://swimundy.com/sku-swim-thong/ (swimwear, but being too big using it as underwear). And when I was seen in my thong (I probably have been seen previously but I never had a way to confirm it) I would just tell her it's ok and to come in and I was just going for a shower, while walking out to the landing to grab my towel and goto the bathroom. BUT what turned out was the door was partially opened and I was standing at the far end and I had to react like I wasn't expecting it so the door was quickly closed... I went over and started saying it was ok and wanted to open the door but I was so apprehensive that the moment wasn't one of her having seen me first.

Then after a few moments I thought I'd just go out and go for it. But when I did she was walking to the landing so I hesitated and closed the door quickly. I waited a moment and went for it again, this time she had her head turned away again and was walking away to the room at the end of the hall... So I went for it and went to the landing to grab the towels, which are all hung on the stair railing leading up to the next level. Then I started walking back to the hallway to head to the shower but she was inside the room and didn't see me. I felt like the best lining of the stars and strategy planning was completely wasted.

I tried to shake it off and get back to work but it made me dejected but I felt like focusing on what if's doesn't really do anyone any good. So the next day I figured I could just work out again, but this time I would walk out in my thong, grab the towel, shower, wear a fresh pair, walk out to the balcony to hang the pair I was wearing (I hand wash them), walk back through the living room, landing, hang the towel and back to my room. If she happens to be there that's fine.

BUT... AGAIN. What happened was that while I was working, she was getting ready to go out herself, so I wasn't even working out, but after allowing for a bit of of time to have her get ready and almost out the door I decided to get my towel and make the motions for getting to the shower. She was coming up the stair way when I was doing this and I'm fairly certain she seen me from the back when I was walking to the shower (which was the plan the other day but with a more direct view/confirmation feedback).

So I went to the bathroom but then sauntered back and through the landing and into the office to grab lord knows what. I could hear her in the landing and she wouldn't know I was there or need to come in. I wanted to walk back through to head back to the shower but didn't and waited till she went back down and went on through. She announced she was leaving and I asked if I should lock the door for her to which she said yes and I went down to do so after a short while. So close but yet kinda so far.

Later that evening I was working in the office and was wearing my rio bikini underwear. Usually I'd have the door closed, but had it open and the chair had my daughter's old back pack so from the back and slightly from the side it would just appear (well I thought) like I was simply not wearing a shirt and just had shorts on. My wife coming in proved that because she initially didn't react but when she was just over my shoulder she gasped and had a sheepish grin at what I was wearing. She asked if I wanted dinner and I said not yet and just went away grinning.

So kinda exposed out in the open but no one would know. I was working away when the mil came up went into the upstairs living room connected to the landing and none the wiser. My plan was to finish up work and head to the shower while grabbing the towel and back again in just my thong. During this time, my daughter asked if I could move her folding table from the office to the living room. I was busy with work but said yes and went to the living room with it but saw my mil sitting on the couch watching tv. So I paused and retraced my steps and was pondering if I should pull on my shorts and carry the table back... I didn't want to because it was still warmish, means it'd take time for that and I needed to get back to work. So I just went back in my rio (she's seen similar at the beach and at home but that was a while ago). The living room is a step higher than the landing and as I'd stepped up partially and was about to place the table as close to the entrance as possible, she turned and looked back. I didn't look at her (shy, nerves lord knows what) but she would've seen me in my barely there briefs. She obviously had a prolonged look and went back to the tv, so I just hurried back, grabbed the chair, deposited and went back to work.

Slightly apprehensiveness and work jitters as well but slowly it felt like a break through and started feeling elated...



Now to today, when my wife works from home as well. I went for an early morning gym/swim (mind you I wear a swim thong regularly at the pool, but the home situation is perplexing as to how nerve wracking it can be when at the pool it's matter of fact and not a big deal of wearing a thong or having someone see me) then the plan was the usual hand washing my swimwear, and walking to the balcony to hang it to dry, grabbing the tool (all the while in my rio bikini) showering, wearing my thong, heading back out to hang my rio, drop the towel and back to my room.

All good but mil was downstairs with the morning rigmarole. I was upstairs and the air was warming up so decided to stay in my thong to fix the bed, so had to take the pillows, duvet to the other room to have space to prepare the bed. While I was doing that and my wife and daughter are going around me and I straighten out the bed and was heading to the other room to grab everything when my mil was walking to the other room as well. She saw me and flashed a cursory smile and went in. I kinda gestured a half apology and back tracked into the room (she seen me fully from the front in just my thong but not the back). I kinda wished I didn't stop and went into the room to grab the things.

I went back towards the door and seen her head back out into the landing so chanced going back to the adjacent bedroom to grab the pillows and things and laid them back out on our bed. At this point I just decided to go for it and went to the office across the landing to "grab something."

When I did she was standing just a few metres away and could see me again and I slightly hurried to the office and grabbed my water bottle and then came back through and went to the bedroom.

So this time around she had a full view of me coming and going, front and back. So breakthrough made successfully! So although in the way I planned, it still worked out, with a bit of dedication and action.

As I had to drop my daughter off at the school bus, I got dressed. After which I came back and relaxed a bit and went back to my office to work a bit. At this point I stripped down to my thong again as it was hot and the door was closed.

My wife was working in our bedroom and I needed to use the bathroom, which is adjacent to the bathroom, but separate from it. It takes going through the landing, hallway that connects the three bedrooms and off to the left leading down a corridor on its own. My wife saw me and flashed as smile, and she can see I was in a thong and knew her mother was home and didn't say anything. At this point I thought she fully accepted.

I finished up and went back without any hitch and started working again. The father in law was home as well and he knocked on my door. I said enter and didn't bother to dress up at first. From the back, like the other night you might not be able to tell but right in the door, he possibly could. And it'd be clear that I was in my underwear and possibly thong as the backpack doesn't fully cover the back.

He came closer at which point he would fully see me in just my underwear and asked for help with his car but I said I was working so he went away. So something else which I was apprehensive about was cleared as well.

After a short while, my wife was yelling to me to get her phone as she was in the toilet and didn't have it. I picked it up from the landing where it was charging and went to her to drop it off. This time around she was frantic saying I can't be walking around like that when her mother was home. I think before, when she didn't say anything, her mother was in the yard cleaning, but now she was inside the house.

I went back pulled on my shorts and came back... and asked who it was on the phone. After that was over, it went back to how I was dressed. And that this isn't the beach... and to go further, you can't even dress at the beach like that. On the contrary my dear. I definitely will

I told her that her mother has already seen me the day before, when I was working out so it's not a big deal and started making jokes and light of it. In reality it was when I was walking to the bathroom she'd seen me. Then I went back to my office and took off shorts and was walking around again and went back to her to in just my thong so she could see.

She'd softened by now and I believe is more open to it.. but while I was back in the bedroom lying down waiting for her to get some food, she said her mother's not left yet for work and to cover up... I kinda did, but then took it off again and she closed the door.

As far as I'm concerned the victory is mine as successfully walked in front of the mil again first in my rio bikini (which is like retaking territory already claimed before) and then in my thongs. So I will be doing more of that as the weather is favorable to be scantily clothed... and just shorts doesn't cut it.

And I'll be slowly conditioning my wife to be more accepting and not so weary about her mother.

[NoOnesOnion87]

My wife’s first comment was, are you telling me you are gay. We then had a nice long conversation, great sex and now I’m in my 6th year wearing them about 99% of the time. My wife says I have too many but has never said a negative comment to me. To her they are just another pair of underwear.

Ask her "If men's underwear can be gay does that mean that women's panties can be lesbians?"

[NoOnesOnion87]

Women can be just as choosy about their underwear as men, but they get to be open about the styles they love, while men are shamed and told that they are gay, weird, perverts, etc., for being open about their favorite styles. Women are taught to enjoy their underwear, men are taught to see it as a mundane and utilitarian garment.

[gstringkini]

My wife was cool with it - first my bikinis, then my thongs and gstrings. I was worried, but it was a (mostly) easy sell and she warmed up quickly.....

[JL Thong]

Thought I’d share a positive update on my journey navigating thongs with my wife, since this topic comes up here a lot.

A little background: I started wearing thongs a couple years ago mostly for comfort and support, but also the enjoyment factor.  I didn’t involve her in the initial purchases and I chose slimmer styles, my favorite being the Ikingsky low rise thongs. After the initial reveal my wife had a pretty strong visual reaction to some of the skimpier styles — especially ones with a pronounced pouch. Her comment at one point was that they created a bit of a “visual disturbance” for her.  That was a good signal for me that I needed to slow down and approach things thoughtfully rather than pushing the issue.

Instead of arguing about it, I tried to focus on three things: staying calm, being respectful of her preferences, and letting things normalize gradually.  I kept thong wearing mostly private for a while and gradually and slowly started reintroducing them.   Things have warmed a bit over time but she admitted the slimmer styles in my small collection are still too much.  

A turning point happened recently while we were on vacation. After we showered together we were both getting dressed and she put on one of her own thongs. I decided to put on the one more modest pair of “cheeky” athletic-style thongs (a little fuller coverage in front and back). She noticed right away, walked behind me, pinched my butt playfully and said, “These fit differently.” I just calmly said, “Yeah, these are the cheeky style that cover more.” Then we stood around in our underwear talking normally for 15–20 minutes. No awkwardness, no negative comments.

That moment really seemed to reset the tone.

The next day she mentioned ordering some new underwear from Jockey. I casually said she could throw a pair or two of the sportier thong styles for me in the order if she wanted. That opened the door to a really good conversation.

She told me she’ll probably always prefer seeing me in fuller coverage trunks, but she will compromise on the right thong styles as long as they aren’t the very skimpy ones that accentuate the pouch too much. We actually looked at styles together and she liked the cotton Jockey “true style” the best since it has more coverage and looks pretty modest.

We landed on a nice middle ground:
• Fuller coverage thongs are totally fine.
• I’ll mix in trunks sometimes when we’re lounging around together.
• The skimpier styles I already own are still okay if worn occasionally.  She encouraged me not to throw the skimpier ones away and said I don’t need to feel awkward or hide them.  She’ll let me know when they feel like too much on any given day.

Overall it felt like real progress. The biggest lessons for me were: keep things low-key, don’t make it a big dramatic topic, invite your partner’s opinion, and be willing to meet in the middle. Once it stopped feeling like “a thing,” it became much easier for both of us.

Just wanted to share in case it helps anyone else navigating this with a partner.

[David_NC]

JL - I think that is a great compromise, she isn't saying no to thongs, but asking you to wear some a bit more modest. This gives her time adjust to you wearing thongs, allows you opportunity to try different brands and gives a visual treat when you surprise her with a skimpy pair. You can mix in modest pairs then wear skimpier ones ones special occasions to start. I think you both showed great respect for each other.

[Thongs for Me]

Started when my wife and I were dating and she told me that she would like for me to wear bikinis and string bikinis, then after a while I asked her if she would like me to wear thongs, she said if that is what you want to wear than go for it. After 18 years of marriage she still is very supportive of me wearing my thongs, if fact she picks them out for me. Great having a wife that is so supportive of my choice of underwear, wear my thongs 95% of the time.