I haven't been in a serious relationship since I've started wearing thongs frequently but it seems like that's changing. I haven't shared that I wear thongs with anyone so I'm just wondering how you guys have brought it up to new girlfriends/partners?
Basically I've come up with 3 ideas that could work
I could straight up tell her I wear them, but I think I'd wait until we've spent more time together to try and see how she might react.
I could just let her discover them In my dresser or in the laundry.
I could be wearing them when changing or when the pants come off and see what happens.
But let me know what worked for you guys or what your experience was?
It really shouldn't be a big deal but we all know the stigma people have of thongs on men for some reason. Maybe since we're in our 20s it won't be a big deal.
Just let it happen naturally. She may like them. She may not care. She may hate them. If she hates them, maybe she isn't the one for you. The one for you should be able to accept you as you are... thongs and all.
I didn't start wearing thongs until many years after my wife and I were married. I did wear bikini underwear before that so it wasn't a huge leap for her to see me in a thong. It's not a big deal anymore. I would just act totally natural about it. Like 806thongfan said if she doesn't like them, then she's not for you. Here's a video that may give some helpful advice:
806thongfan wrote: Wed Apr 30, 2025 11:44 am
Here's what I think...
Just let it happen naturally. She may like them. She may not care. She may hate them. If she hates them, maybe she isn't the one for you. The one for you should be able to accept you as you are... thongs and all.
I guess I'll just keep wearing them and whatever happens, happens. Obviously I hope she loves it but I think the most I'll hope for is that she just doesn't care about it one way or the other and it's not a deal breaker.
swimmer78 wrote: Wed Apr 30, 2025 11:49 am
I didn't start wearing thongs until many years after my wife and I were married. I did wear bikini underwear before that so it wasn't a huge leap for her to see me in a thong. It's not a big deal anymore. I would just act totally natural about it. Like 806thongfan said if she doesn't like them, then she's not for you. Here's a video that may give some helpful advice:
My drawer is all "normal" underwear like trunks and some boxers. Then it goes straight to thongs lol. I don't really have a middle ground style to ease her into seeing me in thongs lol. Hopefully it'll go well when the time comes!
I waited almost 8 years after saying "I do" to tell my wife I wanted to add thongs to daily wear. I wore them on occasion, but she never knew and I eventually wanted to wear them more often. However, in your case, you already wear them. So they are a part of you and your routine. I like the idea of letting her find them in the laundry, if she asks about them just be yourself (calm and cool) and say yeah they are mine - not calling attention to them will make them more natural. She may never have had a male friend wear them and want to see you in them - and that can lead to some fun times. I also like, the idea of her "finding" them when you two are in a situation where your pants would be off. Still can be a lot of fun. Your third option is similar to how I told my wife, I just sort of told her. I had already been wearing bikinis so a thong wasn't too much more of a stretch, even though it kind of was. I think the topic coming up in a more natural setting will seem less invasive - blurting out, hey I wear thongs, might be a little more over the top than she can handle. But you know her personality and will be the best judge on how to bring it up.
I always just let it come up naturally, usually during sex. Sometimes they thought it was hot that I wore a thong for sex, and then later a little surprised that I actually wear them normally. I acted like its normal everytime though.. when asked why, I just say its comfortable and I like variety. Most were totally cool about it and actually enjoyed it. One was luke-warm about it.. didn't really like it but tolerated it.
One time I was texting a girl back and forth for a while. I was on vacation and sent her a photo of myself in a hot tub. It wasn't too obvious, but you could barely make out I was wearing some type of bikini and not the normal board shorts. She responded 'Speedos? wow' and I sent another pic that showed a little more of the side, showing a peek of my butt. She responded 'omg is that a thong? hot!'.
Since I’ve been wearing thongs since college days it’s not something that I consider when entering into a relationship. The women that have discovered that I wear thongs since a have all found it “Hot”. It wasn’t something I brought up before getting intimate. Instead it was a discovery. At first most have said they wanted to see me wearing the thong, basically modeling for them. The women that were more vocal and affectionate began to buy thongs they wanted me to wear for them. Often they have asked why, when and how long I’ve been into thongs. I’ve had some interesting conversations once my thong wearing was uncovered. That has lead to me telling my partners that I wear thongs since swimwear too. Very often the next question is; when can we go to the beach? The best way to put a partner at ease it to be confident, playful, relaxed and have humor about wearing a thong.
Hi MidwestThonger ! First of all its very nice the fact that you want to keep wearing thongs . Means that you find them comfortable, sexy ..you like them. secondly its nice that you want from gf to be part of this . All the members gave to you very helpfull advises and we wish you the best !
Allow me to write down how i experienced my coming out as a thonger to my gf, next to be wife.
I am married already once. About my ex wife i have written many posts. We were friends before we ended up lovers and couple, so she knew everything about me. Of course my underwear preference.She was more than ok.
When i was alone , after divorse, i met only 3-4 women for something more serious ( we tried but didnt worked) and so their reactions its not the subject now.
I met my current gf about 2 years ago.she is colleque with me . since we worked together very soon it was obvious that she was full time thonger, at least during the day..i say that because sometimes women wear either nothing or a full bottom underwear to bed..
She came to work and after a week it was obvious that we had good chemistry.
anyway we started dating and 2 months passed before we had our first night together...
During these 2 months we were spending more and more time together doing several activities...we both love hiking and just walking a lot around the city or anywhere.
i always had my thong on ( i dont have any other choice anyway, but even if i had, i would wear the thong) and i loved to know that she is thonging too. i was not carefull not to see a whaletail, but i didnt try to give a whaletail on purpose..i was just me.so a whaletail didnt occured.
one day we were hiking she was in very hot leggins and i had my loose sweatpants.
at some point she reached the back of my sweatpants and put her finger in and put the rest of the palm on my ass.
she immediatey felt the naked flesh under the pants and she searched for underwear so she felt the thong back waistband.
she pulled her hand and asked what i am wearing..i told her and silence....
i was 200% embarrassed ..i said something funny, nobody laughed...anyway fortunately we were close to her house..so our walk ended in a negative or , at least, embarrassing atmosfere.
next day i didnt have the courage to call her, it was saturday and i was thinking that until monday is one more day so maybe enough time to forget (?) all this?.....
Saturday evening she called me.. i was apologized for everything...i said i feel guilty for bringing you in a embarrassent situation and all this...
she said just ok...lets forget it and we confirmed our already schedualed hiking on Sunday...
ok...until then i had 2 pairs of briefs..never wore them but they were available..when it was time to get dressed i was split in two. one voice was saying..put on the brief,dont be fool, you are going to lost her.. the other voice was saying be a man, be proud of your choice, be yourself..
as you may assume the second voice won and i put on a thong.
We met and we started walking , talking about various subjests... out of the blue..she asked..are you wearing a thong? i said yes, i always do.
she then put her hand inside the sweatpants and touched the triangle.she confirmed my words...
she smiled, " naughty boy" she said and the rest is history...
so MidwestThonger, be yourself, be a man who is proud and confident about his choices and wear a thong everytime.
life will decide in which way she is going to find out...
Of course it’s a very interesting subject and every woman is different , like every man . I’ve always like brief underwear so as soon as I met my wife to be I wore a variety of very brief styles right from the off and she thought it was great fun .
That continued through life but I think she became less easy when she saw how important it was for me . So I’d sometimetimes wear something special and sometimes not . I always found buying new tiny stuff and getting it delivered rather embarrassing as it would be a sign that I’d been browsing underwear sites .
Sadly that all ended with bereavement , the love of my life .
In recent years I had a very liberal girlfriend who would be interested in most things and would try things for the sake of new experiences , or just to please me . For example , and I hope this is ok to say , I was able to combine wearing a tiny speedo and being spanked by her with a crop on a few occasions .
With my latest girlfriend she prefers hipsters on me but I’m going to introduce smaller micro briefs again . I wore a thong once with her and she said she didn’t like it . I’m just going to tell her that I prefer them and they make me feel good . If the micros go well then I’ll go smaller , she does like to please me but I’ll let you know how it goes . I think women can sometimes be a little concerned By the sort of feminine look of a thong or by the concept that your fetish is greater than your desire for them . As always , I may be wrong !
