Nobody Nearby
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Nobody Nearby
It sucks that I cant chat with someone in person about thongs. I tried with my girl but she has changed the subject. and I dont plan on bringing that up again. Trust me I love her but I feel like this is more of a bro subject than an intimate one. Someone I used to chat with on here suggested I go on grindr, but that wont take me anywhere. There are definitely men on there, but its mostly men who want to have sex or are into another level of underwear like womens lingerie and leather, which I am not interested in at all (nothing against it, its just not my thing. i like to wear mens underwear only). I tried instagram and twitter. There are men on there that are interested in the same playing field as me, but none of them seemed interested in chatting. I think it had to do with the fact that I did not have any face pics of myself or of myself posing in my underwear like they did, so they probably thought I was another fake account or something along those lines. Not only that, but they also live thousands of miles away and I really would like to have an in person, platonic relationship. Any ideas as to how i can find someone nearby?
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I get where you’re coming from. There seem to be lots of gay centric underwear sites that focus more on sex than underwear. I’m not interested in that in the slightest. And I have little interest in posting pics online because of unwanted sexual comments.
So honestly this forum seems to be the best place to talk about underwear. Not sure I’d really want to talk about such things in person.
So honestly this forum seems to be the best place to talk about underwear. Not sure I’d really want to talk about such things in person.
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Although your partner isn't interested in having a conversation about thongs, is it ok to assume she doesn't have a problem with you wearing them and actually likes to see you in them? Does she wear thongs and do you encourage her to do so? Apart from your girlfriend, is there anyone else who knows about your underwear preference? I suppose it's possible that some of your male friends might share your love of thongs but prefer to keep it to themselves for fear of ridicule. One way to find out would be to wear a thong in a situation where it will be seen, perhaps at the gym with a training buddy or if you are staying over at a mate's house after a night out. It's possible,although unlikely, that you could see someone in a locker room wearing a thong who you could strike up a conversation with, but that could easily be misconstrued. I agree with Thongbum that this forum is probably the best place to talk about underwear and maybe there is a fellow member who lives close enough to meet up with in person.tony_sucks wrote: Thu Oct 26, 2023 2:06 am It sucks that I cant chat with someone in person about thongs. I tried with my girl but she has changed the subject. and I dont plan on bringing that up again. Trust me I love her but I feel like this is more of a bro subject than an intimate one. Someone I used to chat with on here suggested I go on grindr, but that wont take me anywhere. There are definitely men on there, but its mostly men who want to have sex or are into another level of underwear like womens lingerie and leather, which I am not interested in at all (nothing against it, its just not my thing. i like to wear mens underwear only). I tried instagram and twitter. There are men on there that are interested in the same playing field as me, but none of them seemed interested in chatting. I think it had to do with the fact that I did not have any face pics of myself or of myself posing in my underwear like they did, so they probably thought I was another fake account or something along those lines. Not only that, but they also live thousands of miles away and I really would like to have an in person, platonic relationship. Any ideas as to how i can find someone nearby?
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I would say it depends on where you live, in a small town you are less likely to run into another thong enthusiast - however larger cities might provide a greater chance to connect in person with a fell thonger. If you are near the beach, you are more likely to run into a swim brief guy than someone in North Dakota. This forum is a great place to ask a question or share a feeling about specific underwear types, brands, fabrics, etc.
There are gay, str8, bi, all walks of life men here that could possibly help you navigate the waters. Perhaps you have a question that someone else also has but can't put it into words. Pretend we are face to face, what would you ask or say about thongs or bikinis? and instead of a single reply from someone nearby, you'll likely get multiple replies from all over the world.
Now about you girlfriend, is she okay with you choice of thongs or does she tolerate them? What type of question(s) did you ask her?
Also, in regards to IG - I have reached out to dozens and sometimes it can be hit or miss for a response - I will say those are typically the accounts with thousands of followers. But i have also reached out to a few dozen and have had great dialogue about underwear on a routine basis.
There are gay, str8, bi, all walks of life men here that could possibly help you navigate the waters. Perhaps you have a question that someone else also has but can't put it into words. Pretend we are face to face, what would you ask or say about thongs or bikinis? and instead of a single reply from someone nearby, you'll likely get multiple replies from all over the world.
Now about you girlfriend, is she okay with you choice of thongs or does she tolerate them? What type of question(s) did you ask her?
Also, in regards to IG - I have reached out to dozens and sometimes it can be hit or miss for a response - I will say those are typically the accounts with thousands of followers. But i have also reached out to a few dozen and have had great dialogue about underwear on a routine basis.
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Grind Is not a good options, not even for queer people,lol.
Also, I think you can tell us where are you, I would love to have a friend to chat with about thongs, but you are right, its hard to find someone with the same interest,
Also, I think you can tell us where are you, I would love to have a friend to chat with about thongs, but you are right, its hard to find someone with the same interest,
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Tony, both Tanga Tanga and David_NC make some good points. If you see another guy in the locker room wearing a thong, yes, commenting on it might, or might not, be misconstrued. A friendly comment might indeed be welcomed by another guy who just might see you as someone with a common interest. You know you're not cruising, and, yes we have to take chances in life(!) If you are at a microwear-friendly beach, striking up a similar conversation with another guy wearing a bikini, string bikini, thong or g-string might actually be even easier, since it would be hard to misconstrue a reasonable comment as cruising right there in public, especially if one or both of you is with your similarly-clad special lady. (Geez, even nudist couples chat at the beach!
) And to Dave's point about your girlfriend. Does she enjoy wearing thongs, bikinis or string bikinis? Do the two of you enjoy some "foreplay disrobing?"
No particular need to talk about it! Just wear 'em and do what "comes natural" in those "situations!" If you both feel good about the appearance of your bodies, just think, you could take a vacation at a microwear-friendly beach and be THE "Hot Couple!" 



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I am in exactly the same position as you. I get the feeling that there are a load of guys around here that are in that same position.tony_sucks wrote: Thu Oct 26, 2023 2:06 am ... I really would like to have an in person, platonic relationship. Any ideas as to how i can find someone nearby?
I think it would be awesome to be able to hang out with another guy, while wearing a thong and talking about thongs and such without the sexual overtones. Just hanging with local friends that are into it without sexual expectations would be amazing!
I'm in eastern / northeastern Mississippi, and I'd love to have some local bikini / thong friends! If you are in the area, you can reply to me here or send me a private message.
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What a great subject Tony, I'm glad you brought it up, I feel the same as well, I have hundreds of bikinis and thongs and G strings, but no one to talk to about them, my wife is OK about them and likes me wearing them, but we generally don't talk about them, I'd love to be able to talk to another guy who shares the same "obsession" as I do.
The only guy I can talk to about my undies is a gay guy who occasionally waxes me, but he usually turns the conversation sexual, which is a road I don't want to go down.
We've been to nudist beaches and wear some pretty small thongs on normal beaches, but no one comes up and comments on them.
Funny isn't it? it definitely seems a taboo subject.
The only guy I can talk to about my undies is a gay guy who occasionally waxes me, but he usually turns the conversation sexual, which is a road I don't want to go down.
We've been to nudist beaches and wear some pretty small thongs on normal beaches, but no one comes up and comments on them.
Funny isn't it? it definitely seems a taboo subject.
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The fact that no one comments on you and your wife wearing skimpy thongs doesn't necessarily mean it's viewed as a taboo subject. It could be that those around you don't see it as an issue that needs to be discussed and therefore can be taken as a positive. It would be worse if you were confronted with negative responses and felt threatened, although I think that is more likely to be experienced by a guy on his own than a male/female couple.Thonglover8k wrote: Wed Nov 01, 2023 8:22 pm What a great subject Tony, I'm glad you brought it up, I feel the same as well, I have hundreds of bikinis and thongs and G strings, but no one to talk to about them, my wife is OK about them and likes me wearing them, but we generally don't talk about them, I'd love to be able to talk to another guy who shares the same "obsession" as I do.
The only guy I can talk to about my undies is a gay guy who occasionally waxes me, but he usually turns the conversation sexual, which is a road I don't want to go down.
We've been to nudist beaches and wear some pretty small thongs on normal beaches, but no one comes up and comments on them.
Funny isn't it? it definitely seems a taboo subject.
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For most of us it is not easy finding another person to talk with about our “obsession.” I know that there is no other man in my life that I can have an open honest discussion about thongs, the wearing of thongs, or the purchase of thongs. To do that I am on this site. On the other side I have a few women friends that are more than happy to discuss thongs with me. We talk about everything from where to buy things to how often I wear them (every day), what my favorites are, and what colors are best. Of course often I have the demand to show them my thong of the day.
I wear thong swimwear to the beach and have had a few men compliment me on my swimwear choice. I’ve had many women do the same. It’s fun when I get couples asking (her more than him), with her asking how the to get her man to wear a thong. Yet, I don’t have a male friend that wears thong swimwear.
I wear thong swimwear to the beach and have had a few men compliment me on my swimwear choice. I’ve had many women do the same. It’s fun when I get couples asking (her more than him), with her asking how the to get her man to wear a thong. Yet, I don’t have a male friend that wears thong swimwear.